My bf broke up with me bc i was older(i'm 37 and he's 27).That happened before 2 weeks.When he realised i was

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37,as i look very young, he changed,he said he couldn't see me the same way and that we didn't have future together because of this age gap.Before the age matter he was very attached to me.This 2 weeks were hard for me but i was trying my best to get it over.Before 2 days he sent me a sms saying:"i want you to give us another try no matter how old you are".I was surprised as when we ended he sounded very determined not to come back again.So we met and i gave him another chance but he seems a little distant.He said that he reconsidered the whole matter and he wants to be with me but i don't know if i can trust him.I like him but i want the things to be like in the beginning.How you see this situation?

Answer 1

That happens when a age difference is there you have to understand going in. Like me I'm young looking but our ideas an thoughts are more mature than the younger 1s so there has to be a difference balance between you an them. Ether he has to grow up our you grow down. What he thinks is funny you thing is dumb. I may have to grow old be i refuse to grow up.Chances are he like the stable secure you ,but the youth of his age???I don't know why he did what he did then change his mind that's part of being young, learn an move on.Or except him for know as he will probably bolt again. There plenty of other choices out there. Why the drama??

Answer 2

When trust has been violated you can't recapture the initial high of the beginning of a relationship. However, if your boyfriend was the guy who posted about a very similar situation about a week ago then you can do better. The fact that you look much younger than you are is a good thing but you have to tell people upfront all the information they may need because situations like this come back and bite you in the behind. There are things I say upfront so that people know what they are getting into dating me and after that we take it from there or we part company without being upset.

Answer 3

When I was 31, I dated a guy that was 21. Now 21 is very young- compared to 27. However, he knew how old I was from day one, and we were friends and co-workers for quite some time before we dated. Then we dated for a tear and a half. He loved me a lot and I loved him. His parents liked me and approved of me. However, it was very difficult. I don;t know if it is social stigma or what, becasue if a man is 10 years older, no one cares. Not the man, not society. If a woman is 10 years older.. its a big thing. Now maybe he is concerned about maybe marriage and ahving children... and he is thinking that this would not be possible? Also my boyfriend confided in me a few times, that he is worried about my aging later on and him becoming unattracted to me. I reminded him that most people think that HE is 31 and think that I am 21. haha :) Int he end, the relationship ended because of other reasons though. Just don;t let this guy jerk you around. Either he is in, or he isn't. And I have known serveral couples that the man was younger.. even MORE than 10 years, and the guy was loving and devoted. If he has issues, let them be his issues and not yours.

Answer 4

I see this guy as a very insecure man... hon, it ain't ever the years, it's the mileage....

I have friends my age falling apart. I have friends younger than me falling apart, and I have friends older than me more vigorous that I am (I'm 56). I have dated (when I was dating) guys 12 years younger to 20 years older... some of the younger ones were far more mature than some of the older ones... and interestingly, no one looks as some guy dating a lady 25 years his junior.

So in your place, if he wanted to see me again, he'd have to see a counselor for a session or two to get his head on straight before I'd even touch the guy, and spend any more time with him... and hon, there are just tons of really neat men on Yahoo Personals, Match.com and other sites... tons, all interested in a lovely lady such as yourself. Almost all are up front in what they want,,, "friends only, commited relationship, marriage... "yadadydaydya."

In your place, I'd be sure he has had a few sessions of counseling before I'd take the guy back. He needs to get that issue resolved. If you were to marry, and stay together, you will still outlive him by three years!!!

Answer 5

Dint u know that he was so much younger than you? In a way this will be better because the age difference may get tough in the future.

Answer 6

Men can do and say some really stupid things, but I think for the most part they are genuine. Give the poor sap a 2nd chance. If he hurts you again, then you will have no regrets about forgetting him.

Answer 7

It may be possible that your guy was rejected by someone younger, and is now trying to get back in your good graces.

check it out. if so, find you someone that is aware that wer'e he's not exempt from father time, and will want someone to be in his corner not based on how he's aging but what he gives of himself in the relationship.

good luck

Answer 8

So did you lie about your age or did it never come up before you became bf/gf?

If you lied, I don't blame him for leaving, YOU my dear are the one needing the trust from him.

If you never even discussed it, you are both immature and maybe should be together LOL!

Answer 9

well..to me..it sounds like it really doesnt have to do with ages..geeezzz its not like he is 21 and your 36..age is only a number..I have always dated youger guys..and they never once thought about my age..like you ..I look younder too so whats the diff anyway....I say its just his EXCUSE>>>>>>>>dont waste your time...

Answer 10

did you lie about your age at first?
cause that can be a reason that he can't trust you at first, but he has feelings and wants to try.
if it's worth it, take it step by step