Ballroom Dancing??

Question

Ok, well my boyfriend has been gone for awhile and as a surprise, I learned the Tango and Salsa for when he returns. He has always wanted to learn this so I think he will be happy. I was just wondering, since he's never done it before, how do I dance with him the first time. Do you think I should be the leader until we can work on it, or should I try to teach him to lead the first time? Any tips or ideas?? Thanks

Answer 1

Depending on his personality, you'll probably want to try to find a place where you can dance alone the first time. Don't try to lead him, otherwise he will never learn how. Instead explain to him the proper dance hold and how to lead. Then back lead when necessary, but he needs to try to lead and think that he is. I taught beginning level courses for 3 years while in college and I always emphasized the importance to the men of understanding how their posture, stance, and hold influenced their ability to lead and how if they did not at least try, then the lady would never know what he was trying to do. Its very important. But if you can try it alone at first, he will be more open for suggestions than when too many people are around. Good Luck.

Answer 2

I'm assuming he's been gone for weeks or perhaps months, not years. That being the case, I suspect you aren't really in a position to give him a lot of teaching, since you're still not far from a beginner yourself. You can show him some basics, and there's always some back-and-forth (I occasionally ask my instructors to reverse roles so I can learn the lead from the follower's perspective), but realistically, there's not much advantage to reversing roles more than a tiny, occasional bit. On the other hand, in the classic days men were expected to learn the follower's part before they tried dancing with a lady in Buenos Aires, so there is some historical precedent of a sort. As long as you're not pushy with it, you can have a lot of fun either way.

Answer 3

It is very nice of you to learn what he's interested in. I'm sure you both will enjoy it.
Do you mean you'll try to lead lead or to back-lead? Leader's and follower's parts have different steps. Different enough to make it confusing for him if you try to lead him (i.e. you dance the boy's part) while he dances as follower (i.e. he dances the girls part). Backleading (i.e. you dance as a girl, but actually you initeiate the movement) is less confusing, but you don't want to make it a habit. He needs to learn how to lead, not only to do his steps. Leading is the most challenging part for a beginner dancer, but it is the most fun when they actually learn it and feel that the lady is following. (Hmm, how do I know? Don't ask... I've been dancing for a long long time.)

It is the best if you can show him his steps. At first - slowly, whith counts, or using "quick-quick-slow". Then try it together, then try it to music together. If you don't know the boy's part it may be the easiest to go to lessons together. You want him to have a positive experience. Give him space in terms of learning. Guys might feel very frustrated or even intimidated when girls are dancing better, trying to teach them, but in reality can't explain stuff all that well because they don't have much experience themselves (no offence intended).

Answer 4

a million. For ballroom dancing you want instructions and prepare. no longer many human beings (no longer in basic terms teemagers) are waiting, keen or keen to do this. 2. For ballroom dancing you want a particular, great place (no longer crowded golf equipment) and those are no longer very elementary or that common to locate. 3. whilst dancing maximum individuals want to have exciting and sense good inspite of how they look whilst they dance, their place or sort. In end, ballroom dancing isn't so to hand to do... and don't get me incorrect ... I actually love ballroom dancing !

Answer 5

Way to go girl! But your boyfriend is in trouble now. He will be impressed but also disappointed as you did it without him. The other thing would be if he knew how to dance but this way ..... All you have to do is take him to the same place where you learned your dances and let him see you dance, then offer him to learn so you two can enjoy the beauty of it together. He will be encouraged and hope will do well.

Answer 6

you should give him a little class. Maybe he won't want 2 tango/salsa dance when he gets home. You should give him a kiss and say "Baby I learned your favorite dance.." I had to tell my BF how to use Club Penguin nd Webkinz. He said " those sites are totally boring let's do pokemon"!!! I was absolutley totured. I totally hate pokemon

Answer 7

Awwwwwww what a nice surprise. Wow awesome that you know both parts. Best advice is to go slow and be very patient. Teach the step and practice combinations. Then you Lead.................take turns leading until he gets in right. No one said the boy always has to lead......

Answer 8

That's such a nice surprise! Awww! Anyway, get some good music, and you should lead him the first time. But occasionally, let him lead too. Joke around with it if he messes up. Who can blame him?! Have fun, and laugh lots! :D