I am busy this week and don't have time to fly to Florida
2007-07-15 06:38:07 · 49 answers · asked by word. 2 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Your grandma's funeral will only happen once. You would go if you really love your grandma.
But that's just my opinion.
2007-07-15 06:41:15 · answer #1 · answered by hgckujhvjyrdnvjhtfhgchtfcjhgcvjg 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you live in a totally different state or country, then I guess it's a wee bit more acceptable, than if you live a mile away. But what is so important that you can't attend your grandma's funeral? If its work, surely they will understand - it's a direct blood relative.
I know nothing would make me miss my grandmother's funeral. I would try and make it if I were you. Unless it's a grandmother you have had nothing to do with for 20 years. Otherwise you won't be very popular with your family. Depends if you care or not...
On the whole; whether it's 'OK', depends on the circumstances and how close you are to your family. I wouldn't miss my family funerals, as my family are close. So it's your call, but if you are a close family, then IMO, it's rude and disrespectful to not go
2007-07-15 06:47:22 · answer #2 · answered by SMEG AND THE HEADS 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask, it's a good sign that you know the answer, but don't want to.
Don't reason out of it, just go, then, aside from being there for her, you won't have any regrets.
Who do you want to be? And who would she want you to be?
Reft
PS if it is an issue of money, try hard to go, then at least you made a real true effort, one that you had actually planned on achieving, rather then an act. Start and plan on going , in yuour mind, you are going, if after all you can do, you can't, then you tried, and that is honoring her. if you REALLY tried..ask now, did she love you, did you/do you love her?
perhaps the same answer should be attatched to 'will you go?'
My opinion.
be happy, and well.
2007-07-15 06:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by Reft 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That really depends on (a) how close you were to her and (b) what you think is best for you and (c) what the needs of your family are compared to those of you.
Let me elaborate. You only have one opportunity to go to your grandmother's funeral. You only have one chance to bring this closure. If you had no relationship with her than it is not so important for you from a psychological point of view. However, if you were very close, you may forever feel as though you are missing something, a sense of closure, by not going. You parent just lost a parent and it may be very important for you to be there for support. You really have to ask yourself what you are so busy with and whether or not it can wait a few days while you take care of family obligations. Can someone else do something for you? Can you get extensions of deadlines?
By way of a personal example: I served in the Peace Corps from 2003 to 2005. I was due to leave in August, spend a week traveling and return home. In the beginning of July I got a call from my mom that my dad's mother passed away. My aunt, her daughter, who is very religious, scheduled the funeral for 2 days later. Even if I had wanted to, there was no way I would make it back to the US in time (by the time I found out, by the time the flight was changed, 12 hours air time plus layovers). I was absolutely devastated. I wanted to be there as I was very close with her when I was young (she had had Alhiezmers for about 10 years when she died and was fairly advanced to the point of not being "my grandma" anymore, but merely her body with her sould trapped inside). However, I did change my flight to go home in two weeks, canceling my travel and leaving my country of service three weeks early. I was not able to go to see my grandfather, but I was able to be home for my dad who really appreciated me being there for him. I felt a loss of closure from not going to the funeral. This finally subsided at the one year memorial service.
This is a really hard choice and only you can make it, but be sure to think about it and not make a rash decision.
2007-07-15 06:49:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother passed away may 27th of this year, they had the viewing on the 29th and the funural on the 30th. I was 8 months preganant, and went into labor on the night of the 28th. I was in the hospital for three days and missed everything. I never got the closer I needed and have to deal with guilt everyday for not being there. We were really close. If you think you will have any regrets about not being there then go. Some people need the closer of being there like I did.
2007-07-15 06:43:45 · answer #5 · answered by maryanne b 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well to each their own, but there wouldn't be anything to stop me from going to my grandmother's funeral. I would put my whole life on hold for a week if I had too.
I don't think "being too busy" is a good excuse not to go.
2007-07-15 06:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I missed my Grandmother's funeral. I was in Frankfurt at the time and the funeral was in Florida.
I'm not a big fan of the concept of funerals anyway.
Oh - I missed my wife's funeral too. I was in Minnesota, and that funeral was in Florida too. No, this is not a joke.
2007-07-15 06:41:04 · answer #7 · answered by Diminati 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think I would try to go - of course it's for your family, not your grandma, cause she is in Heaven now and is not concerned with who is at her funeral!
2007-07-15 06:44:52 · answer #8 · answered by Amy K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand the whole being busy thing, believe me, but this is your grandmother we're talking about here. I don't think that it is ok at all... You should drop everything for your family no matter how hectic your life is. You need to pay your respects to her, because without her you wouldnt be on this earth...
2007-07-15 06:42:09 · answer #9 · answered by Boston 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's a bad thing to miss a funeral, but if you don't have the time than what can you do?
2007-07-15 06:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋