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Question

Why oh why, do many committed and or married men, stare at "other" women, whilst they are out with their significant other?

Just your own personal opinion, and experience, that has lead you to understand this behavior.

Any suggestion(s) and or positive solution(s) to women who go through this.

Please write from the heart...straight to the point, addressing an "ideal" situation (an attractive wife/fiance/life-partner), and a realistic reason as to why this happens. Considerate honesty and do-able solutions are a plus! Best of Luck!

Answer 1

As a man, I have looked at other women while out with my wife. And it's something that has pissed my wife off big time, and it's somethig that I've worked very hard at to change about myself. Because by my looking at other women I told my wife that she wasn't enough or good enough for me. And it's something that I'm working hard to change.

Ladies, I know people say put your foot down, and I agree to a point, but sometimes it doesn't help with some guys. As men are visually stimulated, but the guy has to make the choice for himself not to look at other women. I suggest encouraging him to look at you, and tell him how it makes you feel when he looks at other women, but don't do it in a way that sounds like your convicting him, just tell him this is how you feel.

Hope that this answers your question.

Answer 2

I've never understood this behavior, especially when the men get jittery or even insecure when the women look at other men.

I think I explained this one before, men are visual creatures, that's why the women's markets in clothing, fashion, makeup, hairstyles, are geared this way. The first thing we look for, instinctually, is a good looking potential partner. We are designed to see a series of traits, guaranteed to lead to procreation of our species. This doesn't mean that we have one mate for life, like a few animals, it just means men will always see beauty, no matter if they're married or not.

It's disrespectful if they do it while with their partner, getting caught, that is. It takes time and retraining of your partner's manners, IF he wants to. Most women will strike back and be as obvious as their partner, while that will stick in his head, it usually leads to retalitory behavior.

Talk with him about your feelings, if he truly loves you, he will adjust how he is when he's out with you. If he looks, he does it quickly without getting caught or he doesn't because he doesn't want another argument or you getting even with him by doing the same thing.

Either way, you must choose whether you can deal with it or not and act accordingly, besides, he does come home with you, right?

Answer 3

My husband loves porn. I'm not sure if he is feeling insecure with himself or if he is really not interested in me. He flirts with women at work all the time and has got caught several times. I guess the only reason that I stay with him is because we have four children. I make more than enough money to care for myself and all my children but he won't go away. smile.
Men are know when they have a good woman and they will play the game to keep them. Even if that mean lying. They look at other women because they are not secure in themselves. They must also feel like they can "rock" someones world. When in fact we (women) are the true "Players and Pimps". Now if they tell the story they will say that they are but remember I said they were insecure. At some point are no longer able to get it up and they start to cling to the good women (wives, girlfriends etc) because we are suppose to love them even when they can't perform.

If women ever get pass the point of trying to steal or date somebody man, or falling for that sob story that my girl don't do it like you we would see who has the real power and control.

Answer 4

Men look at "other" women because men are visually oriented creatures - an attractive woman WILL catch their eye.

Men stare at other women while they're out with their partners because they either have an understanding wife or because they haven't learned the art of subtlety.

As a woman, the best thing to do is to be confident in your own charms (try watching for the men looking at YOU while your man is otherwise occupied!) and remember that no matter who he's looking at, you're the one he chose to be with. :)

ETA: I think it's terrifically offensive to refer to men as pigs or dogs because they respond to their biology. Women should be less hysterical about their men glancing at a waitress... it's not like you don't double-take the Abercrombie models when you walk through the mall, right? So lay the hypocrisy to rest and give your guys a break... it's just hormones!

Answer 5

As a married man for 12 yrs. I was asked about my thoughts on other women and my answer was always the same. My wife was the most beautiful woman I knew. She was beautiful, smart, sexy, well-grounded and moral( i thought) just a wonderful person to be around. Then she started having her affairs and I still think that it takes all that to be a "beautiful" person. Many people consider paris hilton and women like her to be beautiful, but not me. She may be considered attractive on the outside, but she has not real soul or personality on the inside and it takes both to be a whole "beautiful" woman.

Answer 6

I dont have an answer other than they just do.

My husband and I actually had a discussion about this a few days ago. We were sitting at a carwash waiting to go through the automatic car wash and of course there was a girl with short shorts and a tank top cleaning her car. He talked about her for a good 5 minutes and I even looked. Believe it or not, it didnt bother me! lol I told him that I rather him talk to me or say it out loud instead of trying to hide it. Hes open about it, it doesnt bother me. Ive never met a man who *didnt* look.

Answer 7

Funny one, well if any say they dont look at others? they lie, We all look everyday, its a human thing,, now some might say Guys only do this, which is not so, just guys dont hide much like woman do,, We are more open minded so to say,, Now if one is rude about it to a wife and the other way around, thats not right then, unless both understand its no big deal,, this is very true,, all look,, not just GUYS.. LOL

Answer 8

There's no harm in looking. Everyone looks, whether they admit it or not. Hollywood makes millions of dollars because of this.

It's whether or not they DO something about it that is a problem.

I look, and my husband knows it. I'll comment on a cute guy, but my husband knows that HE is the one that I love, and he doesn't feel threatened. The same goes - he'll comment that a girl is cute (and usually I'll agree with him - he has good taste), but that's as far as it goes.

As my husband puts it: "Just because I'm on a diet doesn't mean that I can't look at the menu." And "I stare at train wrecks, too..."

People who are uneasy that their partner looks seem to have deep-seated insecurity issues, either their own self-esteem or about the stability of the relationship.

Answer 9

It is a natural attraction for men to wonder why other women are with whom they choose to be with.It is not always about sex or their anatomy.Men a re just naturally curious about the opposite sex in general. My wife knowa for sure I only want her but I see attractive women every day of my life.And YES,I do wonder what they look like underneath their clothes occasionally! However,My wife is and has always been Numbero Uno in my life,and I intend Not to EVER cheat or let it get to a point of any confusion.

Answer 10

I think ALL women have this problem...look at these hot models that get cheated on, it is not about who the man is with.

Men are VERY visual creatures, they love to see boobs and butts and all kinds of heights, hair, face, feet, everything! To them it is like taking your dog for a walk. Does your dog only sniff one tree? Hell no, he is hitting as many as you will let him LOL!

It really takes a lot for most of us women to turn around and stare at a man with our tongues on the ground because we are mental creature, we know how stupid men look when they gawk like that and therefore we have slightly more self-control than they do.

Except for women like me, I can objectify a man in a heartbeart LOL!

Ok so personally I had this issue with a young man I was seeing and when he was staring at this not even that attractive girl (later he said he was looking at her eyes, they were very light blue and very pretty) so later that night, after we had left (DO NOT make a scene in public, it will only make YOU look stupid!) he honestly did not realize it and apologized whole heartedly to me. I made sure that next day to vocally notice a man LOL!

See...men......dogs....woof :)

But we still love them! GOOD LUCK!