My son is 1 month old and Church?

Question

My son is a month old and my mother has been getting on to me about taking him to church... i dont want to take him to church because everytbody will be wanting to hold him and they will be breathing on him and you dont know if people are sick are not....can anybody give me some advice about what to do? Does this make me a bad mom for not wanting to take him to church and how do i explain it to my mother that i dont want to take him?

Answer 1

I can't express more than what the other contributors have already addressed. I have an 8,5 and 2 month old. I've tried to stay at home as much as possible because i don't want him to get sick. Also, my 5 year old is not used to sit for such a long time and will probably disrupt the service mass. They are so little and vulnerable to germs. Follow your instinct and no you are not a bad mother for not taking him. Plus you don't have to go to church to be in a close relationship with God.

Answer 2

You have every right to feel that way.You as a mother now have to protect your baby.You need to simply explain to your mom that this is your baby and you do not feel comfortable taking him to church just yet.My daughter just had a baby and my daughter has not yet taken him out of the house when people want to see the baby they come to her.My grandson was 1 month old the 13th of this month so i understand completely where you are coming from.Simply tell your mom you are not ready to take him out to church or wherever and she need's to respect your feelings and decisions as this is your baby.She should understand and also want what is the best for her grandbaby.Good Luck & Best wishes.By the way you are a good mother for being concerned about your baby keep up the good work..

Answer 3

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Answer 4

It does not make you a bad mom at all for not wanting to him to church. If anything, you are being considerate to him..(your right about the germs etc..and the fact he is baby and can not be able to keep calm and quite during a service..)..plus the people around you..

you are the mom..go by your views on it. There are many churches that actually do want very young children ie babies in the church.They can be very disruptive.

I know it's hard..but you need to let yourmom know you will take your child to church..when you feel it is time.

Answer 5

My son was two months old when he first went to church. I carried him in a sling so that he could sleep and my arms weren't aching. From this I discovered that people are less likely to be in your face, because if the baby is attached that means they you have to be in their bubble for them to see the baby, and people are uncomfortable with that! Yes those that really know you will come over, but just showing them the baby's face (especially good when he's sleeping, so they don't wake him)will be enough of a baby fix for them! And they won't ask to hold him (only family did this), when he's in the sling because it's work to put him in and take him out! But you're that concerned, tell her how you feel.

Answer 6

Just one more voice to say, wear your baby in a sling!

I've only been back to church a few times since my 2nd son was born and those times I did, I wore him in a sling. That prevented people from asking to hold him since he was asleep inside his little pocket.

You're right to worry. My friend took her baby back to church and he got RSV that week. There are a lot of well-meaning and kind people at church, but that's just it, there are lot of PEOPLE and kids at church--that means extra germs. I'm no germaphobe, but I am cautious, and it's OK for you to be too.

No one asked to hold him while he was in his sling. Well, some 8 year old girls asked to hold him, I said, "Another time, honey." I made my own sling for a couple dollars, so it doesn't have to be expensive.

Answer 7

Does she attend the same church? If so she might just be itching for a chance to show off her new grandson.

It's your choice if you don't want to expose your baby to germs. My 3 month old has already gotten sick from older siblings and it was no fun for either of us.

One other option you might want to consider is wearing him in a sling so that people can peek in. Not a lot of people reach into slings to touch a baby because that is close to your personal space.

Answer 8

It's your child, and you shouldn't have to listen to what other people want you to do. If you want to take your child to church, then go for it. If not, it will not make you a bad mother; all the more power to you.

Answer 9

You are so right....that is way too early. I was told that you really shouldn't take your child around people until they are about 3 months. And even then it is kind of early. When you do take him out sometimes you'll just have to be down right mean to people who want to be all in his face....they should know better.

Answer 10

i don't go either. i'm just afraid my son will cause too much distraction and be too loud. we have a "crying room" for people with children but i know my son will not sit still and will run around. he's 19 months and still falls a lot. the church floor is, like, marble tile and the pews are hard. i'm sure he'll injure himself somehow.