She was married and her husband knew the child wasn't his they have since gotten a divorce and now I have to deal with the feelings all over again. My husband and I have a 4 yr old. He now pays child support but the other guy is the Dad and the child has the other guys name. Any suggestions on how to cope AGAIN.
2007-07-15 06:17:26 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is the results of when someone cheats. They only think about themselves and don't think of the pain and trouble that their actions cause.
2007-07-15 07:29:26 · answer #1 · answered by Bryan M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh geez, Gina, I'm sorry to hear about this.
Seems like it's opening the wounds again, fresh. What did you do the first time? Did you talk to a counselor? Did you work through it with family or friends? While I don't know what I would've done in your shoes, I'm not sure how to handle it either.
Start with seeking a friend, a family member, even a counselor for yourself, you chose to stay with him, you need to find someone to help you cope with all of your feelings because another child from another woman would have been the final straw for me.
2007-07-15 13:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I'm sure it's going to be difficult for you to deal with. Remember one thing, both children are innocent in this situation. Both deserve loving parents. & step-parents. You may want to get counseling to learn coping skills & tools that help deal with this situation. You may have to forgive again every single day. But you sound like a level-headed person and I'm sure you'll do well. Best of luck to you. 2D
2007-07-15 13:27:29 · answer #3 · answered by 2D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes, salt in a very old wound. I would just try to remember the coping skills you used last time, and maybe counseling could help you both :)
Good luck, see boys, this is what can happen!!!!!
2007-07-15 13:23:01 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
deal with it.you both still have to pay child support.the only way out for you is a divorce.
2007-07-15 14:09:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry sweetie, i wish i had some advice for you, but i really think you need couples therapy. it would be heathly for both of you. good luck.
2007-07-15 13:23:04 · answer #6 · answered by eb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah leave him...and i know it is easier said...but how could he do that to you? and oh he is sorry but he wasnt sorry enought to not do it in the first place...I dunno I would definatley find a guy that loves you and no one else...
2007-07-15 13:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Super glue his penis to his zipper.
2007-07-15 13:41:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋