Is it possible for 2 people to get married right out of high school, have a child, then 1 goes to college and continues to improve their life, education, and place in the world, and the other enjoys the dead end, no rewards job that they started with out of school? Because these 2 peoples goals are so complete oppsosites is there any hope for them? Please include any websites/links and words of wisdem that may help.
2007-07-15 05:28:32 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Little more detail. I want to persue a better life go on to grad school, get a good satisfying job, and fullfil some type of purpose with my life. My wife wants to work at a day care changing diapers for min. wage. She completely hates the idea of furthering herself through a better educatio or even better training. I married a turkey and I was so close to soaring the skys, I think?
2007-07-15 07:30:33 · update #1
Keep going with your plans. Your wife needs a little more time to grow up; she will figure it out. Telling her she is a turkey will not help. The keys to a good marriage are communication and compromise. I've heard you should go into marriage with both eyes open, and keep one shut there after.
2007-07-15 08:26:09 · answer #1 · answered by M S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always hope. Instead of focusing on the negatives of this... start focusing on the positives and the options.
You may be stuck, but once the other has finished school there is nothing stopping you from taking your turn and continueing your education. It just takes patience. Let the one finish school and get that great job... then you take your time to go to school and better yourself and your life situation.
If you work together you can both have everything you want in life. But you have to stick together and be there for each other, be supportive, be the partners you vowed to be.
2007-07-15 05:38:34 · answer #2 · answered by az_mommma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly? I thinkt he only chance marriages of being successful is when the two are opposite in many ways. Imagine if you were both exactly the same? How long would it be before one of you tried to throw the other off a cliff? You need somebody to be dominant, and somebody to be submissive. You need somebody to work to provide for the house, and somebody to stay home to take care of the house. You need somebody to kiss the boo boo's on the kids scraped knees, and you need somebody to paddle their asss's when they get out of line. In other words you NEED an alpha and an omega, a yin and yang. Simple as that. Instead of viewing your spouses opposties as negatives, find a way to view them as positives.
2007-07-15 05:41:14 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marriage is like dancing with a partner, you know. You must be in sync with each other; there must be teamwork for marriage to work out. If two people have totally different interests, it's okay...but totally different goals?
It would put too much stress on the relationship, coz you constantly struggle with each other. If you wanna make it work, learn to meet halfway--compromise!
Coz marriage is not a walk in the park. It's where two people are united and are willing to put aside their differences for them to live peacefully.
and yeah...i feel sorry for the kid. he's caught in the middle without even asking for it.
2007-07-15 05:39:28 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course there is hope, but they both have to be okay with the decisions that the other one has made.
Marriage is very hard and a lot of work, but as long as both spouses are on the same page, it should be fine!
2007-07-15 05:34:06 · answer #5 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible.......... but you've stacked the deck against a happy ending. You will both have to find some common ground to be happy. The ones desire to improve themself has to be a huge factor. Hard to soar with eagles when you are stuck with turkeys, eh?
2007-07-15 05:42:17 · answer #6 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the stuff that makes great literature. I think, however, that they would need to find a way to continue to grow as a couple. It would not be based on intelligence, education or ambition, but on values, and shared dreams.
2007-07-15 05:35:13 · answer #7 · answered by Calvin James Hammer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 09:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they get along in all areas of their life except jobs then why not? If they are happy with what they have good for them. You have to be happy with your job. If you have a bad job it will come home with you and make things unhappy at home but, if you love your job and you are happy where you are at then it should be fine...... good luck
2007-07-15 05:37:59 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love them enough it won't matter where they work or their education. It sounds like you may be looking for an excuse to end it.
You don't need websites or other peoples wisdom. What you need is compassion for your mate.
Good Luck
2007-07-15 05:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by Big Red 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋