My husband is in Iraq...recently my husband asked for a divorce....after six years of marriage. Today is our anniversary, I wished him a happy anniversary by saying "You hold a special place in my heart. I am truly
sorry things couldn’t work out between us but I still want to wish you a Happy Anniversary. I hope you have a blessed day. Please take care of yourself and be safe!" and he basically replied " I also would like to say Happy Anniversary but I know it isn't. " Is he trying to hurt me...i am so confused...any advice
2007-07-15 04:54:48 · 12 answers · asked by yuma yuma 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds to me like he is a jerk! You weren't wrong in what you said...actually it was very, very nice of you.
With that being said, I would not give him the opportunity to be nasty to you again.
2007-07-15 05:01:15 · answer #1 · answered by endo_chic 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
He meant he wishes it was a happy anniversary, but realizes it's more of a sad day for you instead of a happy day, since he wants a divorce.
I don't think he meant any malice in his statement.
It's a bittersweet day for you and him. Yes, it is the day you got married and reflects a day in happier times, but as things stand, this will be your last anniversary as a couple. I really don't think it was a dig, but more of "I'm sorry I want out and ruined this day for you."
I don't know what you did was wrong. You are trying to reach out, hoping for a good return. Unfortunately, you didn't get what you were hoping for. I'm sorry...............
2007-07-15 12:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Personally, if my soon to be ex were to send me something along those lines, I don't think I would have responded.
If the divorce is imminent, there was no reason to tell him Happy Anniversary to a demised relationship.
Unless you were fishing for a reconciliation, you should have stated so.
2007-07-15 12:08:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes you were wrong and did you expect a "happy anniversary to you hunny" response back? He's trying to move along and you need to do the same.
2007-07-15 13:19:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He wants to leave you, but he is trying to make you feel bad? Hmmm.......... for a soldier that doesn't seem very manly, you know? Maybe he is regretting his decision.... maybe, even if he was the one who is bailing out of the marriage, he feels guilty to you. Maybe he misread what you wrote, thinking you were being sarcastic.
Either way, I am grateful for his sacrifice for our country... wish the war was over so our troops weren't in harms way...
2007-07-15 12:02:45 · answer #5 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the message is as you said, it might not be a dig, just that he appreciates that it might not be as happy an anniversary as you'd hoped.
2007-07-15 12:12:05 · answer #6 · answered by pluginmaybe 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no it was not wrong and are you the one whose question i just read yesterday that my husband wants divorce after 6 years of marrige what should i do?
2007-07-15 12:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Am1!! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
things happen for no reason at all.. case in point,, my divorce came as a shock to me,, but in time , all wounds healed,, made me a stronger person in many senses.. but also has made me very hesitant to pursue a serious relationship..
2007-07-15 12:17:24 · answer #8 · answered by jon b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you weren't "wrong" but it's probably a very painful time for both of you, and if i got his message i would just take it as that it's now a painful day for you guys.
atleast he replied back.
2007-07-15 12:01:34 · answer #9 · answered by Kaja 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You're divorced, hon. That was a dig....get on with your life.
2007-07-15 12:03:50 · answer #10 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋