She believes that she is going to make it big in the music industry and anything that seems to make it harder makes her depressed....and has 'melt downs'. I have known here for 15 years and we are very close but all we seems to talk about is her music career. I cant go to her anymore for normal friendly chatter. How do I help her snap out of it?
2007-07-15 04:01:12 · 9 answers · asked by Darlin 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Attempt NOTHING to "snap her out of it." She is displaying the ONLY attitude and drive that happens to be the common denominator for all people who ACHIEVE lofty goals. An ALL areas of endeavor, including music, stardom, becoming business tycoons, etc.
She has "P&D" -- Persistence and Determination. Just as ALL successful people do.
So you should be *encouraging* her! That is, as long as you truly ARE her **friend**.
2007-07-15 04:11:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some point she is going to come to the realization that she is not going to make it big in the music field. Maybe she has now and is having trouble making the adjustment to that fact and that is what is making her so depressed.
The best thing you can do is let her know that you are always there for her. and then provide a shoulder for her to cry on as she works her way to becoming a real person again.
2007-07-15 11:05:48 · answer #2 · answered by scotishbob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like this girl has some deeply rooted doubts about her own self-worth, and she feels that being famous is the only way to justify to herself that her life has been worth living. Perhaps showing her that others love her the way she is, and that getting a music career would likely shatter all of her current relationships, might help snap her out of it.
For instance, you very rarely hear about musicians in successful relationships. All you hear about is this lawsuit or that conviction or this series of failed relationships or that child out of wedlock. Faith Hill and Tim McGraw are the only successfully married musicians I can think of!
2007-07-15 11:05:51 · answer #3 · answered by P.I. Joe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no subtlety allowed here. You will have to be upfront and tell her that you are tired of talking about her career. Nothing gets more old than when all a person can do is go "blah, blah, blah" about themselves. It's like the absolute worst thing you can do in dating, and it isn't much better in friendships either. Be upfront and I am sure she will understand.
2007-07-15 11:05:57 · answer #4 · answered by Rckets 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it is all fine that your friend wants to make it big,i think all of us on some level want that.however,as her friend,you owe it to her and yourself to tell her how you feel,ask her why you can not share the things you need to with her,your friend is being very selfcentered and that is not a good thing in any type of relationship.good luck
2007-07-15 11:12:31 · answer #5 · answered by notsohardtofigure 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should talk to her but you need to support her, my friend has alot of music dreams to and im sure she will reach them but she just has to be patient once you help her be patient then she wont talk about her dreams as much but she will probally get there.
2007-07-15 11:10:52 · answer #6 · answered by Not religion♥♥Relationship 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
⥠Dont Be The one crushing your friends dream.
⥠If you know she cant achieve...help her achieve
⥠If she cant reach as high as she's aiming...be her friend and give her a boost
⥠She needs you!
2007-07-15 11:05:20 · answer #7 · answered by ♥ Saммч ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you cant get this person to snap out of it... this is their belief...
2007-07-15 11:03:27 · answer #8 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its the girls dream and if you're her friend you should support her dream!!!
2007-07-15 11:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋