dont want to destroy my marriage but i seems i cant stop talking with my friend.. i miss her everyday..
2007-07-15 04:00:19 · 28 answers · asked by pretty 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Take your chat program off the automatic start button. Just don't start the program it is that simple.
Go and chat with your wife. Find another hobby and get yourself out of the equation.
Also plan a romantic weekend away with your wife Just the two of you and rekindle why you fell in love with her. Chances are you are falling for your friend for the same reasons why you fell for your wife, Find them again in her
2007-07-15 04:06:01 · answer #1 · answered by MissE 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could all ready be doing that.....You just never know do you? This could be a set up are you sure your wife doesn't know this person and decided to see just how honest and faithful you are. Might be a test then it might not but either way you need to take a good hard look at yourself. Try thinking if the roles were reversed how would you feel? Your dangerously close to cheating and it's time to think about your marriage and the vows you made to each other. If your vows mean something then you know it's time to stop all conversations with this other person and put your efforts in your marriage were they belong........
2007-07-15 11:14:05 · answer #2 · answered by miester44 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to destroy your marriage it's up to you to do the work to make it work. Put a block on your computer so you can't get to the chat website. Block the person from being able to contact you any other way. Reconnect with your wife. Go on dates. Talk to her. Share with her. If all else fails start counseling. Put the work into you marriage to save your marriage before it's too late.
You obviously value your marriage. I know you say you miss your friend, but consider that it is possible that what you really miss is having that same connection - that same newness with your wife. It is possible to bring that back into your relationship. Good Luck!!!
2007-07-15 11:09:30 · answer #3 · answered by Christina G 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dude....... you made a vow to your wife. Maybe things aren't going well... maybe your intial rush of lust has faded and you are being distracted by what you think is greener grass on the other side of the fence. You need to stop chatting with your friend immediately and focus on your marriage. If things have changed with your wife and you've lost the proverbial "loving feeling" than at least do her the honor of letting her go so she can find a man who will love her.
2007-07-15 11:19:20 · answer #4 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP! JUST STOP!!!! Pull the plug out on your computer right this minute and take your wife on vacation. If you don't, you will so regret the mistake you're making right now. How do I know? Just ask my ex husband... he's now a lonely, sad, unloved man (his newbie didn't stay with him and the wife he cheated on - me - moved on).
P.S. The only reason you're excited to be talking to this friend is because it's all new and she's supposedly listening to you. But with email chats... in reality you're just talking to yourself. Sometimes I'm so sad about what my ex did - we had a history together and he destroyed everything we ever had (our love, our family, all the memories of the years we shared together). Please, just grow up and stop this nonsense before you regret it. Take your wife out - talk to her openly and honestly and tell her you need her and that you're scared for your marriage. She WILL come through if she loves you. I would have... if he had given me a chance.
2007-07-15 11:08:30 · answer #5 · answered by mJc 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you need to start talking with your wife like you do your friend. Sounds like you might be missing something in your marriage that if you don't find it soon you might not have a marriage left to worry about. You might what to really think about counseling and, stay away from your friend give you wife a chance to fill that void.....
2007-07-15 11:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear, you are on a treacherous path you are leading; you want to keep both, and want us here to justify it for you. She is your friend, give her the respect she is due. And your wife, the women who both had sworn to honor each other until death do you apart did not wrong with you! You are betraying her, your heart is anyway, you are clinging to the “what if”.
I am sorry to be blunt, but you need “tough Love”, Snap out of it, talk to your wife and involve her in everything you are doing, remember it is not your wife’s fault, it is not your friend’s fault, it is YOUR choices that put you on this predicament and deep down you should know the difference between what is desirable, and what is right!
Good Luck
2007-07-15 11:15:59 · answer #7 · answered by KaysoCles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're married, and made a commitment to your wife when you got married. Cut this online thing off immediately. There is nothing but trouble down that road. Trouble and pain for you and for your family. I've been in this situation myself, so I can tell you beyond a shadow of a doubt that this is the best thing to do.
2007-07-15 12:33:00 · answer #8 · answered by squidboy1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, what do you expect us to say? Are you hoping for some miraculous way you can have two wives? And, why bother lying? You CAN'T stop talking to your side lady???? Ya poor soul- powerless to stop talking to your friend. My heart bleeds for you. There is only one thing you can do. Explain to your loving wife that you guys are going to move to Utah, and join that offshoot of the Mormon church, so you can have extra wives. Or, you might try being an honorable human being, and just grow up and stop trying to justify behavior you KNOW is both wrong, and silly.
2007-07-15 11:40:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming chat to mean online... This person you chat with, I'm guessing, seems to personify everything your spouse is not. Plus the fact that you chat with her online leaves you to fill in the extra blanks you don't know about her with your imagination which is dangerous because now she just seems perfect. She's not perfect... Don't fall victim to that.
Even if I'm mistaken and it's not online chat it doesn't change my point. She's not perfect and if you truly don't want to ruin your marriage then you have to realize that.
Try this. Look at her (or talk to her) and imagine that one day you will find things about her that you absolutely can't stand and will piss you off beyond belief.
2007-07-15 11:08:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋