Only marriage couples. Does marriage counseling helps?

Question

Tell us about what is working, and wat is not. Why did you decide to do therapy? Tell us all.

Answer 1

Even if your marriage doesn't have troubles, marriage counseling is a good thing to have. Often when you're right in the middle of a situation, it's difficult to see why we do certain behaviors. Having a third person analyze both of our behaviors and responses to those behaviors helps, because they can point out things that we otherwise never would have noticed. It helps by identifying potential problems before they even occur, sort of like how keeping an engine well oiled will prevent it from siezing up.

Answer 2

It depends on how willing you both are to looking at yourselves and stop blaming the other person. That's a very hard thing to do. If you're young and not too set in your ways then it could help . If you're set in your ways like me and my Ex then it may not work.
I only found one statement that was true that ever came out of a therapists mouth and I've been to many. That is: of all the qualities you have in a marriage there are two that you must have or your relationship will surely fail. Those two things are Trust and Respect.
Couples therapy is really a forum where you dissect your past and you rediscover the relationship of each of your parents. I've even heard that couples therapy involve 6 people . You, your, spouse, your parents, and your in-laws. Even though there's only two active people in the session (not including the therapist) you are both dealing with other forces.
It's always worth trying to go to couples therapy, but don't expect any miracle. If you're successful you end up solving your own problems. The therapist is just there to "Spin the wheel". Good luck

Answer 3

Therapy works if you want it to. It is used as a guidance when everything else fails. Just because you seek counseling doens't mean that your marriage is going to work.
If your both mature, responsible, and level headed - you can work it out without seeing a counselor. Only if y'all want to....I believe it should be legal for couples to have to seek marriage counseling for 1 year before marriage-some longer. There would be less people getting married, but more people truly thinking about all the responsibility that it comes with...

Answer 4

As a family relationship counselor (part time), I can tell you this; that marriage counseling cant/wont help all couples in trouble but does really help alot of them tha seek professional help. Both spouses must enter counseling with a open heart and mind and truly want their marriage to survive. Its not always easy, sometimes discouraging, but will work if both are willing to do whatever it takes to acheive the same result. Depending on the severity of the problem depends on time it takes to overcome the challenges you face. Most enter counseling at the first sign of real trouble but neither wants a divorce but dont know how to overcome the problems

Answer 5

Yes, it dose work. Sometimes as couples we forget to listen to each other. And sometimes we have a hard time understanding where the other person is coming from. You will know when you are done with counseling. My husband and I went for almost 6 months at the beginning of our marriage and have been married 11 years now and counting. I still remember the skills he taught us to this day and use them. We are happily married. You have to be honest with each other while in counseling to get anywhere later on. Of course through your relationship also......good luck

Answer 6

Marriage counseling only works if you are able to find a therapist who will make you take responsiblity for your part in it and own up to it. Alot, alot... of the therapists today end up with two people in their office that they encourage/allow to sit there placing the blame on the other which doesn't help at all.

They need to listen to what they say, help them learn to tell the other in a loving way how they feel... then encourage them to really listen to the other's feelings, own their part of it, and work on making changes to better not only them, but the marriage.

Sadly, it usually isn't like that.

Answer 7

It helped us. I had been seeing a counselor for a while, on my own. It finally got to the point, where she needed both of us there. When my husband joined in, he was able to air his concerns and asked questions. Solutions were found and we are both more sensitive to each others issues. It helped us. Having a good counselor that you both feel comfortable with, is a huge thing. All that took place, over the course of our 34 year marriage. As I matured, and my levels of life change(marriage, raising children, jobs, aging) sometimes I needed someone on the outside looking in, to help me get through it all. I was 19 and he was 26 when we married. I was very young and just out of my parents home. I wasn't prepared for a lot of things that marriage brings about.

Answer 8

Marriage counseling does work if both parties are willing to participate. I do online consultations at a fraction of the cost of marriage councilors. Perhaps I can help.

David Sexton., PhD Human Relationships/Author

Answer 9

We don't do therapy. Whenever we have a problem we always work it out by talking about the things that first brought us together. Every hardship that we have fought through and suffered to this point. Then we are calm enough to point out our won weaknesses, not each others'.
My brother does therapy and it's failing. He cannot solve his own problems.

Answer 10

If a couples relationship is improved then the sex automaticaly improves. Especially from the women's side as Im sure you know that if women are angry at their man then it is harder to have sex with him then it is for men to have sex with a woman he is angry with. therefore If the sex life is not working because of relationship problems then marriage counselling is the way If its just that the sex has gotten boring then sex counseling.