Does the Truth always have to hurt? It's not always easy to choose Peace over Truth, is it?
Thanks for your comments, your thoughts are very much appreciated!
2007-07-15 03:40:03 · 19 answers · asked by Alex 5 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
There are many ways to answer this question.
The first thing that came to my mind is a story that happened between two freinds.
They were best freinds, that had gotten into a very big dispute. They had been best freinds for many years. One of their acqaintances decided he wanted to make peace between them. So he took matters into his own hands. He went over to one of them, and told him how extremely distraught the other person was that their friendship was ruined, and was that the other person was really right.
He then went to the other person, and told him the same thing.
After both freinds heard about how the other one felt, they ran over to each other and each one apologized to the other, and their freindship was rekindled..
In this case PEACE, won over TRUTH.
2007-07-15 05:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by michelebaruch 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think this is a really situational question. In other words, if a person asks you if 2 + 2 = 5, the truth is of course "no". But if someone asks you for a subjective opinion, "Do these jeans make me look fat?" often the best response is "Why do you ask?" Then you can get into a philosophical discussion about self-image, self-esteem and maybe avoid an answer altogether. If there is a truth which would be painful but need not be expressed aloud, keep silent. If there is a truth that keeping silence would be harmful, speak it, but gently if possible. For these last two, you would have to evaluate which kind is the truth - harmful or not harmful?
And I would say, yes, it is almost always easier to choose peace over truth. If your truth will create some kind of turmoil, it takes courage to speak it. If you find it easy to speak truth that causes turmoil, you need to look at your motivation. Does this give you some sense of personal power? Do you enjoy causing conflict or bringing pain?
2007-07-15 11:33:42 · answer #2 · answered by mommanuke 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
If it is not truth, then it must be a lie. I am not a liar. Are you? Saying the truth will sometimes hurt, it's all in the way your truths are worded...without lying. I sometimes cry when I know no matter how much I want to reword something, it's still going to hurt the other person. I cry with them. So the saying, "truth hurts" is true...I say it hurts both parties, the "truth teller" and the "truth receiver". Good luck.
2007-07-15 11:40:52 · answer #3 · answered by floridagirl1261 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I think it depends on the situation. I mean if I knew my kid were in to some serious drugs, I would want to know. Had I have known that my 1st husband was fooling around on my with gads of women before I met him, I would never have married him. And, then, again, for little things, what's the harm of not knowing the complete truth? I smoked a little weed in college, so did my mom. We didn't know about this until I was older and had children of my own and only because my mom's friend told me in front of my mom. We laughed about it. No biggie. So, what is the truth youre trying to hide?
2007-07-15 13:22:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know that woman always want to know the truth but I can't speak for all woman just some. I would personally want to know the truth. It may hurt but at least you're being honest and thats all that counts mostly.
2007-07-15 13:06:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think it always has to hurt. It's how the person revcieving the truth, takes it.
I don't think peace can truly be achieved, until the truth is told. Especially if it is something that will eat away at you inside. Such a miserable feeling. =/
2007-07-15 11:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by Lastsoulonearth 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Say the truth if you have it, if it is a subjective oppinion and you just think it is the truth or it is true for you then you don't always have to say that, however if it is a more scientifically relevant truth that can be given with facts, better to say the truth then to lie to yourself. If you can say the truth and change things so that they are better for all isn't that better then hiding behind the lies and misperceptions, that can only serve to hurt you and all that you are imparting false knowledge to, immature or not.
2007-07-15 10:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by Friend 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Strong people can handle honesty. Immature adults say things like, "I don't wanna know if it's going to hurt me." They need to grow up. I can measure the maturity of a person by how much of the truth they can handle hearing. You need to gauge whether or not the other person is a strong adult or still has some growing up to do. That is the deciding factor.
2007-07-15 10:49:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure what sort of choice this is. Most unpleasantness can be postponed, but saving someone from a truth they will eventually find out, I would be coward enough to put off telling anyone. Once they know, they can't UNKNOW. I know this situation though. Tricky.
2007-07-15 11:02:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
Truth is an interesting area, as there are always different ways to relay information. Your truth is not my truth. My truth is not your truth. Preserving the peace usually leaves one half the equation feeling lousy.
In many cases, it is possible to preserve the peace and to provide my truth.
2007-07-15 11:01:30 · answer #10 · answered by guru 7 · 4⤊ 3⤋