Do people mellow as they become older or more bitter and twisted like me?

Answer 1

Not always, some people have trouble with ageing, in that they have trouble keeping up with the changes in technology, for example. Some people dread calling an 0800 number and having to deal with a phone menu rather than speaking to a live person straightaway. Many do not use computers as another example. They just want things to be like they were when they were younger, and felt more virile and "indestructible", they feel a bit out of place and like they are being passed up by all the young ones.

Answer 2

My father used to day that to be a bitter and twisted old person you had to have been a bitter and twisted young person. Apart from some mental illnesses that come on with age I think you pretty well keep the personalities you are born with. They are just refined over the years. In my experience getting older has mellowed me, I was never good at being bitter and twisted when I was younger and certainly would find it difficult to be so now.

Answer 3

Bitterness comes from leading a hard life and being constantly disappointed and having a life full of regrets, but it's your choice whether you allow your life to unfold that way.

I think CYNICAL is a better word for most don't you?

I think it's really hard not to be cynical when the majority of people you meet are meatheads.

But there are many wonderful people in this world. Not until my son got ill did we realize how many good people there are in this world and it's transformed our lives and how we live.

So now we simply seek people and causes that exist in this world that do good and help humanity.

I've definitely mellowed too. There's nothing in this life that one should take so seriously. We're here for such a short time really. Something like that just makes the past disappear like a shattering window into a million pieces and just leaves you in the here and now.

If you have a dream or talent, go for it, never stop believing. You are the only thing that stands between you and your dream.

The simple things in life bring the most pleasures, and it's true that the best thins in life are free too.

Put yourself in an environment that makes you feel good, hang on to that feeling, and try to find every day places and people that make you feel that way.

You can't focus on the bad. Good is always stronger and can move mountains, so just put your mind in the sunshine and not the clouds.

Answer 4

We all become more mellow with age. The bitter and twisted comes from the stress of modern society. The older we get the more stressful it is to survive the changes and attitudes from the younger generation towards us. We are not treated right and there is certainly no respect. We were, I believe, totally different when we were younger we were taught to respect our elders and having none of the things we were bought up to believe is right does make one bitter and twisted. There is, certainly,no feeling of security coming our way. Lets face it. We are treated badly, to say the least. No wonder we are bitter and twisted. Chin up and be proud that you have made it. Keep smiling it will pass

Answer 5

To be honest it is all a choice. You can be bitter about anything, "heck the stupid sun came up again to burn my skin" or "the stupid clouds are blocking the wonderful sun" If you want to be bitter it is pretty easy. It is always easy to just be happy about things. Most things you do not have control over you can let go and move onto something you do have control over. No matter what people have the standard things which one puts as being important, if possible try to get your surrounds to be the place you find claming. That is why people have pics of family up in the office or in the car on the drive to work. If you are able to surround yourself with things which calm you, most likely you will be less bitter. Twisted is just seeing things from different areas of life out of the norm, which is healthly to a degree.

Answer 6

It depends on the person, my father has definitely mellowed with age, but his mother [my nan] has gotten more bitter and twisted as she has got older.

I think my dad's mellowed because he when he was forty he retired from the army and was unemployed for a year and then got a job with the MoD as a civilian. Leaving the army has expanded his experience of life. The army can be very insular and now he has settled down in one place and built up a life outside of the army he has changed or softened many of his attitudes.

In my grandmother's case, when my granddad was alive he kept her grounded and curbed many of her negative attitudes. However, since he died about fourteen years ago and she has been living on her own she has managed to isolate herself from neighbours and former friends [she has fallen out with most people]. I still go to see her but she can be very tiring and ultra critical, which does not make seeing her that pleasant. I cut short my visit if she gets nasty, so she has gradually started to realise that she has to be nice or she will not get to see me much. I will not argue with her, as she is one of those people who are always "right" so this approach works.

Answer 7

It depends, if you are a happy person you mellow as you get older, but if you have lived most of your life unhappy, you become bitter and twisted as you resent any one who is younger than you.

Or could be the decline of health, as some old folks spend most of their time in pain, they don't see a reason to be mellow and cheery.

I'm young, but when I'm not well, I'm more grumpier than Victor from One foot in the grave.

Answer 8

That's a tad general, everyone ages differently. Some people mellow out, some get very bitter, others become more wise in their old age. Lots of possibilities.

If you think you're bitter because of age, you might be wrong. Bitterness is not age related and it is your choice to be bitter.

Answer 9

I think it depends on whether they feel they have or have not made a fair assault on their personal goals or lived according to their personal priorities in a way that they feel reasonably pleased with when looking back with a critical eye. A lot of people realise later on in life that they have spent their years essentially benefiting people who don't much matter to them, such as the shareholders of their employer, while not giving as much as they could to the people who do matter to them, such as spouse and children.

However, if what you feel is anger about other people's behaviour, such as their fondness for spending your hard-earned money (this feeling is often especially focused on public sector employees and politicians), then you have become or are becoming an "angry old man", which is quite different from being bitter and twisted, and much more fun.

Answer 10

It depends upon the kind of person he/she is and what he/she values and the way he/she looks at life and takes it. People grow more bitter due to unresolved issues and past bad experiences they've had (it's hard to forget at times and some even find it more difficult to forgive). Others mellow. I guess this goes for the people who understand their lives and accept it the way it is.

Answer 11

Well i'm late 20s and kind of bitter and twisted so I hope that doesn't get the most votes.