we've been best friends for ever...and shes changed and last night got so drunk she had sex with a boy she hardly knew. please help, how should i react? im so disapointed in her...
2007-07-15 02:54:08 · 21 answers · asked by sexynnhoos 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Love the sinner; hate the sin. She probably needs all of your friendship and support to get over this. Be a friend and help her.
2007-07-15 02:56:42 · answer #1 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh dear...I felt like my best friend have changed and I was being pushed out and now we've fallen out. Same as you, we'd been best mates forever. It really hurts when you see someone you care about change so much, doesn't it? The way to react....hmm....it's tricky because if you react in a big way, she'll rebel and say, "It's my life" and if you react too little, she'll say, "you don't care". You can't win! You could write her a letter or go somewhere quiet with her and talk to her. Tell her how much she means to you and all the good times you've had. Then say/write how painful it is to see her change so quickly and so dramatically and how you worry for her. Tell her you know it's her life but as her best friend, you're looking out her best interests at heart and are just looking out for her because you don't want to see her hurt. In the end, people do change and it's hurtful but it happens. It's most likely she'll regret what she did last night and you need to be there for her when she cries to you. Hope this helps :)
2007-07-15 18:29:54 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she lost her virginity to a guy she hardly knew and she was 15 thats sad u should warn her about gettting prgnant becuz if she didn't use a condem than she could get pregnant which is bad unless she wants to be a teenage mother!oh, and tell her that u feel disappointed in her and that she should not get that drunk ever. and if she gets mad at u then just keep telling her the same thing. if she doesn't believe u then she isn't a true friend. thats her choice if she wants to get high and have sex with every boy she meets. and if that stuf still doesnt work then go to her parents and let them hanle it from then on.
2007-07-15 10:04:07 · answer #3 · answered by ~Baby V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her know that you are disapointed in her but in a way that you are there for her. Tell her to think about the consequenses of what she has done. Just keep being supportive. The best way to be a support is to avoid places where she could get into trouble. If her ways do not change or get worse, it is best for you not to be around her. If you hang around bad/unhealthy behavior it might influence you. But if it does come to that make sure you let her know that you are not abandoning her and will be there for her if she needs you. It's unfortunate that you have to face this situation at your age and I will pray for you and your friend.
2007-07-15 10:02:57 · answer #4 · answered by sangin_chick 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do si not worry about it because she is the one that did it and not you. But I hope she used protection if not she could become pregnant or worse get a STD and maybe even worse BOTH. So talk to her and see what's happening in her world to make her change like that all of the sudden. SOme had to happen and you been her best friend should be there for her and if she gives you the riot act then just unfriend her and get another friend.
2007-07-15 10:00:32 · answer #5 · answered by Always ready for anything 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She needs you now more than ever. Be disappointed in what she did, but not her. She wanted to try it, and was probably disappointed if she even remembers. Tell her how much you care about her, being her best friend and all. If she gets defensive or mean, give her lots and lots of space. She will eventually come back needing your friendship. I am sorry for the pain you feel. I hope you can see past her upsetting behaviour.
2007-07-15 10:02:03 · answer #6 · answered by bin there dun that 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something has dramatically changed her life and now she is totally depressed. If she will not sit down and try to talk about it with you, try to get her to talk with some disintersted by caring adult.
If this fails all you can do, is just be there as a shoulder to cry on when she hits rock bottom and really needs a friend. Try not to be too judgemental and totally supporive in her time of need.
2007-07-15 09:58:36 · answer #7 · answered by scotishbob 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if she is truly ur best friend, then u should be able to talk to her about how u r feeling. it's ok to let her know that u have noticed some changes in her recently, and u r worried about her recent behavior choices. if she gets defensive, let her know that you are just looking out for her and u want her to know that ur here for her if she needs u. don't push too much because that could hurt your friendship. just try and be a best friend. good luck.
2007-07-15 09:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by tweety3282001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might be disappointed, but since she faltered, you (as her best friend) has to help her now. She made a mistake and you need to reassure her that it was only that and it was wrong. Don't abandon her, find out what caused this behavior.
2007-07-15 09:59:01 · answer #9 · answered by mmrn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are disappointed you should let her know... i mean... yeah that isnt the best idea she could have come up with... but hey... if she wants to get drunk and have sex with people she doesnt know that is her right but.... you also have the right to ... tell her how well basicly slutty it is...... and u do not approve....
woah.... and most likely she is probably already feeling the guilt soo go easy on her sailor! =)
oh and 15 is too young!!
lol jk im only 15... haha
2007-07-15 09:59:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋