victims of abuse?

Question

when i was younger i was the victim of sexual abuse, my uncle started when i was 6 and it didnt stop until i was 15, when i turned 16 i moved into the house where he is living to try and stop it happening from anyone else. but i have recently found out that he not only did it to me but he did it to my sister and 2 of my cousins. today i have also found out that my grandfarther also did it to my sister and cousin. on top of that this year has gone really bad for me and i dont think i can take much more. iv lost my job and all form of income and im in debt and i have debt collectors coming round all the time. as a result of all this im clinically depressed. but what has shocked me the most is that the man i trusted the most in my life has been doing it to my sister and cousin. i dont know what to do, the police have been notified but the investigation could take years, i dont know if i can do it i need help

Answer 1

I answered this already I think - I wish you luck. I am sorry

Answer 2

hi i am a 33 year old man and i was abused by 4 men from 6 to 16.
there is a light at the end of that very dark tunnel and it takes years to get there but trust me you will get there you will go from the victim to the surviver.
i too did go to the police and it will go quick if im honest did i think it was worth it no but it was the only way to stop them doing it to anyone else.
with the trust issue i never thought i would ever trust a man again and it has taken years even now i still find trust hard but have learnt to trust and have been with my partner for 13 years.
you have a long journey to go on some bad and very hard but you will get there you will become a surviver and one day you will see your life as a life worth living.
i have grown a better person through this and i use that as a surviving trate they took so much and its sad but we cant go back we have to move on to the future which they are not in or rulling or any part of which is great its now time to live to shine
i never got qualifications at school was where you are now but now i happy got a good job as a manager.
i wish u happiness something which is free something which we are all entiteled to good luck and hang in there

Answer 3

You poor, poor soul, my heart bleeds for you.

Abuse and betrayal are the hardest and most depressing things for anyone to have to experience.

Just think when you were 16 instead of getting as far away as possible, which most people in your circumstances would have done, you moved in to prevent it happening to anyone else, I think this shows you are a man of great character and inner strength and I for one applaud you.

Remember that strength it will help you now. As the others have said go to the CAB they will help point you in the right direction with regard to your financial situation, there is a lot of help out there.

Please seek out a good psychologist to help deal with your emotional state.

May your God give you strength and guidance.

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Answer 4

HI andrew I dont know what your going through but get help with counselling and MABS or citizens advice dont let them get the better of you. Your better than that, you deserve more.Go to a herbalist or good chemist and get herbal remedies they can be better sometimes than convientional medicine. There are also some good relaxing CDs out there, some chemists do them also. Good Luck

Answer 5

You are already doing the correct thing. The citizens advice centre will be able to find if there is a mutual help society in your area for people who have suffered like you have.

Answer 6

I feel it for you your best bet is to go for counselling, and not give in and let him win again, take control of your life,you will be guided on how to go about it in counselling.
with regard to debt collectors, inform them in writing that you are unemployed, and intend to pay your debt asap, alternatively go to the CAB for advise Good Luck

Answer 7

Go to your local Citizen's Advice Bureau. They can sort out those debts and provide you with details of counselling services to help deal with your emotional issues.

Answer 8

my step father beat me he hated me so much up till the age of 14, i tried to take him to court but my mother used to take me to hospitals under diffrent names so no one knew my real name she said wed moved into the area, so they never clicked abuse was going on, at 48 I still bear the out ward scars on my face and the inner demons I have to fight in private, and the worse thing is I still see him in the street from time to time, but for me to give in he eill have won and i will not let him, go get help get councelling and take the creep to court, i wish i could have taken mine,

Answer 9

you need to be strong to get these monsters locked uo. Go and see your Doctor and get some help from the professionals. Good luck to you x

Answer 10

Wow. I am so sorry. I will pray for you. I have had friends in similar situations. What a dirtbag he must be. This is really heartbreaking to hear.

Answer 11

check this out! This happens in every family even the family's that don't admit it. the only thing we all can do about it is to bring it out into the light in the most loud voice you can. if you can, tell all your family and keep talking about it all you can because as we saw with the priest c scandals it only gets worse because no body wants to talk about it. the fact that all that's been going on in your family is not shocking.. not even surprising!! think about that and that's all you can do besides talking to a therapist and I think EVERYONE should do that even if they do not have problems! Peace be with you