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Cheating to me, means cheating a person out of something that they normally would would get (FROM YOU).
An EXAMPLE. A Scenario here:
If a woman would care less about sex and want nothing to do with it, with her man, but everything else is fine between the the two of them, then in effect she is CHEATING HIM out of sex? Yes she is... ...perhaps not.
Which now means if he goes out to have sex with somebody else, he essentially is NOT cheating her out of ANYTHING, something getting from her anyhow. He is not cheating on her.
Do you see what I am getting at?
2007-07-15 01:59:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I disagree..with regards to cheating you have to ask yourself while doing the behavior "Is this something I would do if my spouse were here? Would I want my spouse to do this? Also ask yourself if this is something you could be doing with your spouse.. ALWAYS act like the spouse is there....
2007-07-15 02:08:16 · answer #1 · answered by GD-Fan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I really hope you are not working on rationalizing cheating on your wife because she won't give you any anymore. If so you need a marriage counselor and you need to talk about your sex life. Maybe it isn't her fault. maybe you just aren't doing it for her anymore. If you have already cheated on her and are trying to make it OK in your mind then bad for you. I hope she leaves you.
Anyway, I think cheating is doing anything your husband or wife would not want you to do. My husband is not the jealous type so I can get away with anything up to kissing. Flirting is OK for our relationship. I do not make a habit of this, but he does not mind if it goes on every once and a while.
I believe that my husband and my god that i said my marriage vows before will always regard sex with another man as cheating on my husband and I will never do that.
2007-07-15 09:39:06 · answer #2 · answered by ambergail1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah if you believe that. Cheating is also doing things you wouldn't do with your girlfriend but will do it with someone else and that is not fair to her. So whats the point of being with her. Just have an open relationship and then it wouldn't be called cheating. If you have to use the word cheating in any scenario then guess what, your cheating period.
2007-07-15 09:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by champain123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating in a relationship is not the same as cheating someone out of something. It is being sexually involved with someone other than your partner with out them knowing. If all is out in the open and everything is fine, then your not cheating.
Relationship + Third party - Honesty = Cheating
2007-07-15 09:15:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
When two people get into a relationship they normally came up with a certain agreement, sort of like the rules. So having said that I think that cheating would be if one of the partners did something that wasn't made known in that agreement.
2007-07-15 11:39:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating, whether it's sexually or at a game of Monopoly is simply breaking the rules. In a relationship, you and your partner negotiate the rules. If she would be upset, then her understanding of the rules includes sexual fidelity. If her attitude would be, "I hope he doesn't get AIDS or have to start paying child support," then I guess you're not cheating because her rules allow that.
You should be honest in your relationship. If she's not providing you with the sex you want, break off the relationship and find someone as horny as you.
2007-07-15 09:12:54 · answer #6 · answered by jack of all trades 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is some spin alright. She would not be cheating him out of anything, as she has no obligation to give him anything, the free will bug-a-boo we live with.
He cheats on her, he's breaking a commitment either stated or implied that they're a couple, and one of the few things we have total control over is our word. We don't live up to that, then we deserve nothing.
2007-07-15 09:08:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have a point in your statement but you have to be honest with yourself, go with the reality, honestly do you think "not getting some" gives you an automatic ticket to get another partner? I would say first get your relationship figured out, maybe Break uP and than do your thing after. There's no reason for this situation to even happen.
2007-07-15 09:04:50 · answer #8 · answered by Orazali A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say that in this case you and she should talk about an open marriage. Then no one is cheating and both are happy.
Essentially you cannot be cheating if the other knows about it.
:O)
Jerry
2007-07-15 09:06:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's an interting analysis but i believe that when ur with somebody and you have sex with somebody else... whatever the circumstances ... it is cheating x sorry
2007-07-15 09:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by youdidnotjustsaythat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋