hi...i'm a 21 yr old woman. i have this guy...my best friend. we aren't romantically involved or anything and he's recently single. we were talking yesterday and the topic drifted to relationships and then we were talking of our previous affairs. he's really handsome. we really had no intentions about it but we ended up having sex. i was really embarrased......i really didn't want that to happen. i do find him quite attractive but this wasn't wat i'm too proud of doing. i left early in the morning before he woke up. he's been calling up since morning and i haven't been taking them. i feel so queer. how do i ever face him again? i was the one speaking of morality last night and i did this. i've always been looked upto as strong-willed. wat do i do? i've lost everything....a best friend included. how do i face him? wat do i do? plz plz plz help me...how do i deal with the situation?
2007-07-15 01:52:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Face it, you had a fling and that was all it was.
Two friends sharing a moment of intimate pleasure.
You basically made each other feel good and filled a void that was in need of filling.
Is that wrong? NOOOOO!
So why be upset about it?
Just let it go and know that you had a good time.
:O)
Jerry
2007-07-15 01:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Come on don't ruin a best friend ship over this..you had recreational sex and it is so common today and the fact that the two of you trust each other enough to feel good with one another and make each other feel good in a time of need then this is great and do not feel bad nor make him feel bad...it is better that two good freinds get it on rather than witgh stranges...I have a guy living with us, well not a kid, he is 19 and one day the conversation drifted toward sex and it happened and he is still living here and after a few uncomfortable days we got on with life and have never since and never even talk about it and we are so ok with it and absolutely great friends......I know we are not talking the same sex but recreational sex, definitely distinguishable from, procreational sex, is no different whether hetero or gay...so please do not make him feel bad and you know "best friends" make the best and most long lasting marriages so do not count him out yet.
2007-07-15 02:10:44 · answer #2 · answered by bruce b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just acto like nothing happend. Cuz think about it from his perspective... you guys did it... and then you just disappeared.. he doesnt kno youre trying to avoid him because youre embarrassed by what happend. From what he can see you just left without explanation. You guys are close friends right? Tell him what you think straight up. And by the way... close friends make a good lasting relationship... theyre both on the same page most of the time. Worst thing to do is to be running away from a friend. The longer you wait... the more awkward it will be. think about it. Ok good luck!
2007-07-15 02:01:56 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Accept his call and see what he has to say. If he says nothing that provokes you into saying something back then tell him that you're not sure about this and you don't feel it was the right thing to do that the time. Tell him you need some time apart to think. This gives you time to consider - why not go out with him? If not ponder on ways you can get back together as just friends and forget the whole situation.
2007-07-15 01:56:29 · answer #4 · answered by Sado 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you talk to him?
You shouldn't delay this further than a day.
Maybe he's just gonna explain or try to clarify things about what happened between the two of you.
It happened anyway, so have the courage to atleast clear things out. Cooperate with him. Maybe he feels the same way and has been calling you to apologize.
2007-07-15 02:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by Feanoross 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
perhaps it was meant to be. why would you be embarrassed? he's your best friend and obviously you both wanted this. it could be a good thing. at the very least, you should take his calls. he's probably wondering what happened and why you left. he deserves an explanation. don't blow him off. give him a call. tell him how you feel.i'll bet by talking to him, you'll get over your embarrassment and maybe even start a new relationship.
2007-07-15 02:04:43 · answer #6 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I would suggest you to pick up the phone and talk. If you keep avoiding it, misunderstandings may arise. He might think you are angry with him and intentionally want to lose him. He might just say that he is sorry, yaar. Everybody loses control over wills. Don't worry. Talk to him and settle matters. Don't let doubts spoil your friendship. Take the necessary steps. The embarrassment will fade away, but the friendship shouldn't. :-)
2007-07-15 02:20:35 · answer #7 · answered by Jhenkara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the important thing to remember is we all give in to temptation,i would just suggest you talk it out with him and hope for the best,i mean you cant lose a whole friendship over a silly little thing like that,just talk it out.
2007-07-15 01:57:20 · answer #8 · answered by Serpent 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't forget everything happen with mutual consent. He was also equally involved. So just attend his call , listen him and react mature.
Good luck..
2007-07-15 02:06:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did the same thing once. Now she is wife. I guess for a good relationship you gotta be friends first.
2007-07-15 02:01:23 · answer #10 · answered by mousehth72 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋