Why?
2007-07-15 01:30:03 · 14 answers · asked by Market Magician 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
There is a lot of love here. Both of us had marriages in the past that were affected by infidelity.
I think our marriage could survive it, but it would be hurt for a long time.
I love him and could never imagine hurting him like that, and I really believe he feels the same.
Let's just say there would be shock to deal with initially. Then a lot of hurt and mistrust issues. But we could work through it.
2007-07-15 01:41:22 · answer #1 · answered by Tikled_Ivory 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on whose infidelity we're talking about, and if the spouse found out.
If my wife cheated, and I knew about it, I think the odds would be about 50/50 right now. However, those odds change throughout the life of the marriage.
In early marriage, before kids, infidelity would almost certainly have been a deal breaker.
Later in marriage, once the kids are raised and out of the house, it could be a deal breaker, but on the other hand, it could be that we will have been through so much together by that time that we would have more understanding and tolerance for each other, and that (hopefully) greater maturity and wisdom about the nature of human relationships might give us the inclination to work through it and rebuild the relationship. I don't know, because I haven't made it there yet.
Right now, at mid-life with a nest full of young kids, I think we both feel the responsibility to continue on and see if we can rebuild and make the marriage happy and workable for everyone involved. As long as we can maintain respect and sensitivity toward each other. I think the inclination is to stay together and rebuild. If the hurt became too much to bear, and my spouse showed no remorse, I would leave the marriage.
There are so many factors that can affect this - the most important being the attitude of the cheating spouse. If they are truly remorseful, and want to be forgiven, and they can handle your hurt, resentment, paranoia, and anger, it has a chance of surviving.
2007-07-15 08:58:36 · answer #2 · answered by Salinger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is hard to assume that it will, but I still hope that it would. I have a long distance relationship (married) and I don't spend everyday wondering if he's turning into a **** and throwing all our efforts away; in the same manner that I don't worry about myself doing something that I am certain I will regret soon. I guess I am not worried about it because I feel that we are both matured.
2007-07-15 08:38:13 · answer #3 · answered by bellybutton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No! Once you know that your partner was unfaithful it all changes. Yes you might forgive them and give them another chance but in your mind you will always be thinking “are they lying, are they really where they say they are, where they say they’re going, why didn’t he answer that call, or why isn’t he answering his phone” those thoughts will never go away and that’s a horrible way to live.
2007-07-15 09:56:37 · answer #4 · answered by IMAGINE IM THERE 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I would never let it. I would never want to be with someone after they treated me like a fool. I would have no trouble breaking off a relationship with my boyfriend right now if he cheated, and he knows that. It is the ultimate betrayal to someone who you are supposed to love.
2007-07-15 08:34:35 · answer #5 · answered by Her Majesty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just like to take this opportunity to say that I believe Firespider is an outstanding human being.
2007-07-15 08:41:21 · answer #6 · answered by Big Richard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner and I are soul mates, and I have nothing to worry about in our relationship.
2007-07-15 08:40:57 · answer #7 · answered by barbwire 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No never, once that trust and respect is gone. That's it.
2007-07-15 09:30:37 · answer #8 · answered by ryper92 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no- once the trust is gone -everythings is history
2007-07-15 08:37:23 · answer #9 · answered by ☺stacy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't even want to think about it
2007-07-15 08:36:20 · answer #10 · answered by kindofkitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋