i know how naiive this question is, but i'm years away from marraige... anyway, what's the reason behind all that cheating and all those affairs? i mean i see that half the questions on here are about that (in the marraige and divorce section) i mean i guess that's a worthy reason to come on here, to get advice (because why would people with good healthy marraiges come on here right?)
so what's the motive behind it? is it bordom? is it bad impulsive decisions? is it lack of love?
2007-07-13 23:10:49 · 10 answers · asked by hairspray queen 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Could be any of these:
-married without realizing they werent really in love.
-doesnt want to take care of kid.
-Fell in love with someone else (Obvious one)
-Doesnt love him/her anymore (This ones tied to other ones :P)
-Some random reasons that just pop up.
-money? lol its possible
2007-07-13 23:16:58 · answer #1 · answered by SCgoon341 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
IT IS BECAUSE THEY GET MARRIED AT THE WRONG TIME FOR ALL THE WRONG REASONS!
That is the only thing it is, because when reality hits and the truth comes out, their trapped. THEY'RE MARRIED! That is a commitment to spend the rest of your lives together, till death do you part. Would you want to be in a situation like that if you didn't love the person? I don't think so.
Please be smarter than all of them. Especially, because children are born for all the wrong reasons and those poor kids are suffering and growing up thinking that that's what marriage is and they do it to their wife and children. Deep down, they really know, so they're very hurt and very angry. Well, it's ruining the world!
Remember marriage will not work if it's not TRUE LOVE and that will happen naturally. Do not be in a rush for anything. You should be dating different men (without sleeping with them like some kind of s l u t) and when the man of your dreams comes along, you will know! Nothing is better. You should then stay together for at least 3-5 years and when you know each other mentally, emotionally and physically, that's when you get married. This should all be in the late 20's, early 30's. When you're very intelligent and ready to settle.
Remember this saying: "Good things come to those who wait" WELL, IT IS SO TRUE! I wish you all the luck.
2007-07-14 00:03:50 · answer #2 · answered by Very Honest 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have read on the Internet that there has been a study on this. They say that people who lie and cheat have different brains than the rest of us. They have more white matter, as opposed to gray brain matter. They are more wired to lie and cheat.
From personal experience I would say they are correct.
Be careful when choosing some one to spend your life with. Do not rush into marriage. I think there are subtle signs, such as someone lying, and what they say about the opposite sex you should watch for. Also watch their actions around the opposite sex.
2007-07-14 00:19:43 · answer #3 · answered by Ruth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People cheat, because they are selfish impulsiveness.
They don't care about the consequence.
Only committed couples or the ones really love each other would understand the damage. The thought of hurting their partner alone should stop them.
2007-07-13 23:19:40 · answer #4 · answered by littleflower 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it quite is cheating! all the ideas and thoughts have been there. He works with this gal? i think of i might first make advantageous precisely who he became into speaking too, and perchance even talk along with her to income out is tale. She's a sorry case, understanding he's married, and has a sparkling infant!!!! He does have her digital mail? What does your husband might desire to declare for himself? Why did he experience he had to cheat? it is problematical to not make any harsh strikes, yet i might for advantageous look deeper into the area. i think of there is greater to this! sturdy success!!
2016-09-29 23:33:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's the perception of marriage itself. We have a distorted view of what it means to be married. We think of being in love and the romance but never the reality of making a life with someone. This takes alot of discipline and sacrafices. Your mate is not your savior and he/she can't make you happy forever. Only God gives true joy. Your mate, if a good one, might be a close second to Him. But when you expect a human to "make you happy", you will always be unhappy. That's not his job description. So many people find themselves being drawn to other people thinking that their love for their mate has died since they are not completely elated by their presence.
2007-07-13 23:57:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really boils down to the same basic and simple things. People lie. They get into a relationship and lie about who they are, and what they want, and what they need, expect, ect. Then they get married, and in couple years, the early feelings utpia start to fade, they get busy in life, and stop talking or start lying more, and then do things they have to lie about.
2007-07-13 23:35:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
o compatibility after marriage. Before marriage everything seems to be right, after marriage even small things can get your nerves. Frank communication is one of the thing that lack in a marriage.
2007-07-13 23:23:33 · answer #8 · answered by slmac11 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's still a mystery to me! Some people just fall out of love, or get tempted with lust... and it's all downhill from there.
2007-07-13 23:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by Love to Answer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all the above and then some
2007-07-17 01:13:17 · answer #10 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋