I am the youngest and newest person on my team at work. I was put in charge about 1.5 years ago when my manager left. I had great friendships with everyone on our team and didn't have many problems with anyone being jeolous or upset that I was left in charge. I have been told by others that I am viewed as a great manager. I care, I respect, and I work with my people. I have one employee that has been here the longest but she is older and insanely slow. She makes alot of mistakes but I have been very patient and have taught her time and time again how to avoid these mistakes. She is very moody and takes everything as a personal attack. Many times she is pissed off at me for the smallest of things, and most of the time I don't even know what she is mad at me about. I have tried talking to her, but I always get upset because she refuses to tell me what is wrong, yet she is visibly annoyed by my presence. I am tired of dealing with this tension EVERYDAY. What should I do?
2007-07-13 20:37:11 · 11 answers · asked by flcaoh 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
ask them if they have a case of the 'mondays'.
2007-07-13 20:41:32 · answer #1 · answered by bleh 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I would have a meeting with her privately. And I would have a person there as a witness who works for the company, but who will keep confidences and will not have a stake in what is said or done.
Then I would just detail what you've told us, and ask her if there is something troubling her or what is the problem. Then I'd go from there.
There is an advantage to having a witness there in case you do have to fire her or demote her or in case she says something that sounds rude, etc. That witness could be your saving grace in case that employee should make any false allegations of mistreatment.
2007-07-14 02:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by nowyouknow 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do not confront her. It is not your place. Especially with something muddled like "mood" or "attitude." From an HR perspective, you can do nothing but harm, so keep your opinions to yourself or to your manager. If her mood does not affect her work (which again, only the boss can determine) it really does not matter. Use this opportunity to figure out how to work with people of all types. Sometimes, you just will have someone you don't like, for whatever personal reasons. Challenge yourself to tolerate on a professionally level. This will pay off in your future career. You simply won't have the luxury of changing or addressing things you don't like. Read the link I provided from Ceridian, a top HR management company on Flexing. It may help articulate this clearer. The easy way out is to confront her. And that may simply just makes things worse. Challenge yourself!
2016-05-17 08:52:05 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is making a lot of mistakes after being there for so long, and is not respecting you or learning I think its time to let her go. I am sure its hard to do but she obviously isn't trying and is probably creating more work for you and the other employees it would probably be the best thing to do.
She is probably mad that she had more seniority and was passed over for manager and now she has to take orders from someone who is younger than she is - but if she can't get over it, send her out the door.
2007-07-13 21:11:15 · answer #4 · answered by ♪♫♪Ginny♪♫♪ 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Often with the most veteran of coworkers you will find that they have at times been mistreated by the company they work for at some point. You are now the face of that company to her so... I am an hr nightmare as far as being a manager but it may really help to just one day flat out ask what the hell her problem is.
2007-07-13 20:41:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to have it out and get her view on the situation. Obviously they feel a certain way for a reason. It may be a misunderstanding. If the meeting goes bad then maybe its time to get other management involved. Good luck
2007-07-13 20:42:55 · answer #6 · answered by liquid 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
as a person in charge, you should plan to have a meeting with her and just conversate with her about the issues she is having. That employee needs to fix her attitude towards you. If she continues like that, just warn her that if it keeps going at that, you will have no other choice, but to terminate her.
2007-07-13 21:11:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Avoid her if you can and ignore her when she's moody. Let her be moody. Just don't let her get to you. If you have to deal with her just do your job and don't show that you truely care what's personally wrong with her. She'll start wondering or noticing that you don't or haven't been paying attention to her.
Remember: Misery loves company.
2007-07-13 20:44:42 · answer #8 · answered by shhhh_j 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You say that you're in charge and you're asking what you should do? Fire her, seriously. Put your foot where it belongs
2007-07-13 20:40:21 · answer #9 · answered by Brian 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
go out to the parking lot and slash their tires!
2007-07-13 20:41:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋