My ex and i are sort of back together- Should i tell him that im not gonna have s** with him until we?
get back together officially. so should i tell him right away or just like doge his efforts? lol. when we dated before becoming bf/gf i didnt sleep with him then only when we were bf/gf. so i want us to get our title back officially before i sleep with him. things with him were great when we were dating but like once we became bf/gf we fought a lot so i understand his hesitation.
QUESTION: DO I SHOW HIM WITH MY ACTIONS NO S** OR DO I JUST TELL HIM STRAIGHT UP?
2007-07-13 20:34:58 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
he wants to get back together but with no label. i want the label.
2007-07-13 20:37:46 · update #1
im thinking about 2 weeks then i should mention it lol. about right he needs to see theres stuff he misses out on when hes not my bf. witholding sex might not be the best option because maybe hell just say it because of that. plus we both equally enjoy our s** life. i know that he wants to be back together but i feel that i need to show him that he gets more by being exclusive. telling him wont do the trick. i need to show him in actions but im not sure how to do it.
2007-07-13 20:50:40 · update #2
he likes me more than sex and were not in love lol. just like each other a lot
2007-07-13 20:52:41 · update #3
Tell him you can be back together with no label, but that you don't have sex with anyone but your boyfriend. That can either be him or not.
2007-07-13 20:45:19 · answer #1 · answered by Mama_Chaos 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
okay, it is partially a mind game and partially a control issue with you. you think you can control the relationship and his attitude and mindset about you by withholding sex. That is wrong. alot of girls play this game and lose in the end. You are already back together - you have already slept with him - he will see this as just another game being played and get pissed off and you just might lose him for good. if you guys are dating, seeing no one else - the you are bf/gf even if it is not labeled as such. quit worrying so much and just enjoy being with your guy and everything else will take care of itself. plus it is really ridiculous to hold out sex - because if you enjoy your sex life - you are denying yourself too. alot of girls say this is the way to be - but let me tell you this, using sex as a reward or taking it away as a punishment kinda makes you like a ho without getting paid. I am sorry if that sounds mean, but it is the truth.
2007-07-14 01:09:44 · answer #2 · answered by brandi 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
heavily... from time to time adult males in basic terms choose to verify the influence that they have got on females,exceptionally in the experience that your the form of individual who doesnt truly coach your thoughts on how lots your right into a guy, like truly open up approximately your thoughts, they'll do different stupid little issues to verify. He additionally would try this in basic terms attempting to get interest, or he truly ought to in elementary terms be an A hollow! And from the sound of it he does it alot... So after awhile an apology loses that is meaning for repetative disrespect and head video games. So permit him recognize ways you sense... and if he doesnt quit then he isnt properly worth you being in a dating with him! exceptionally in case you havent been with him an prolonged time. I advise I dont recognize in case you have or not yet besides the two way that is not properly worth it if he doesnt care approximately your thoughts.
2016-10-21 05:54:17 · answer #3 · answered by cracchiolo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tina Turner had a hit with a song that included the line, "Stop using sex as a weapon." This isn't really a mind game that you're playing. This is more about coercion.
You need counseling.
2007-07-13 21:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by Just_One_Man's_Opinion 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
we live in a society now where sex and physical attraction plays more of a part in relationships. if you are not comfortable with either at any time, whether getting back together or whatever, it probably won't work out in the long run.
2007-07-13 20:45:41 · answer #5 · answered by threegreenballz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Communication is key with any relationship. If your intentions arent clear, then he wont know. If your desires arent clear then he wont know. Unfortunately we are terrible at figuring stuff out on our own. Its better just to tell us.
2007-07-13 20:47:14 · answer #6 · answered by Jon W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you don't want to have sex with him. then ask him if he loves you the way you are or he just only want your body.
2007-07-13 20:52:04 · answer #7 · answered by Misai 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may be wondering if the "best friend" is still trying to hang around...
2007-07-13 21:04:05 · answer #8 · answered by Terry C. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MARRIAGE.
2007-07-13 20:57:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋