Me and this girl were best friends from the start! ever since i was born we've been together as best friends! we grew up together and we were always around eachother! She was the bestest friend that i could ask for! then when we got into about 5th grade i noticed that, she was controling my life! my mom told me that she noticed that i would change more and more everyday. in sixth grade i finally stood up to her when she told me that i wasnt aloud to talk to my other best friend heather. ( the way should control me is that every time that i would not do something her way or stnd up for myself she would cry! and i have a big heart and i always would give in!) well i yelled at her and we got into a huge fight! then i finally said for her to get the CRAP away form me! and thats wat she did. we each found new friends and everything. then we met at a stable where we both ride. and we talked about the whole situation. and we found out that we could still be friends. what should i do??
2007-07-13 17:19:47 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
and by the way. my friend best friend that she would nt let me talk to is already like beat buds with her!
2007-07-13 17:24:53 · update #1
well i guess now u guys r more grown to define wat a real friendship is. a friendship is about freedom and love. She probably knows by now that she had made a mistake by trying to controll u and take ur freedom, so there no a good reason to keep fighting or being mad at her. i hope it helps. good luck
2007-07-13 17:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by banks 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, let's clear up a possible misconception: Best Friend: the "one" friend who stands above "all others". By definition, you can only have "one" best friend. You may have a number of very good friends, or a group of friends you like best. If this is the case, then you may not have a "best" friend because you don't want to choose one from among your best "friends".
The friends you have today, at 13, will probably be so far away and removed from you by the time you're 21 that I wouldn't worry too much about promises to be "bff's". This means that if a friend that used to control you is over that now and just wants to be friends, then "why not"? However, just be friendly to her and don't try to make her your "newest old best friend". Stop putting your friends into catagories and allow them to just be friends. You will find you spend more time with some and later on that you spend more time with others. It's no big deal, we don't have to play favorites nor do we have to pick "best" friends, now or forever.
Enjoy the company of those who enjoy your company and avoid those who don't. You don't need to be mean to those you don't, they don't have to be enemies...just avoid them when possible.
2007-07-21 15:09:16 · answer #2 · answered by Kevin S 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her why you shouted at her before...Even though she'll cry it's much better to tell the truth...Tell her that she has changed and you don't like her contolling your life...Since you guys talked about the whole situation,and found out that you guys could still be friends, question is can you forgive her?I hope so because its been a long time that you guys know each other it's just that people change sometimes even if we don't want the to...There will somehow be a gap between you two but everything is going to be fine..well hope so coz if not it's like everything. the friendship that you guys have, will have no importance at all...
Tell me what happens next!..alright?!
2007-07-21 14:44:43 · answer #3 · answered by fashion_model 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well now that you guys are older I think it's safe to give it another shot. In 5th grade it sounded like she got what she wanted from you by crying because she knew that was your weak spot, but that was back then. If she is friends with the person she didn't want you to talk to then maybe she has changed her ways. So give it a try if things don't work out just slowly drift away. Hope things work out for you!
2007-07-20 17:07:54 · answer #4 · answered by Beach Bum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well.. people grow up, learn many new things, new people, go different ways... the friends that were the best in the past may not be the same in the future. Lucky u are if your friendship remains the same... but it is very natural that you will have many different points of views about life by now... talk with her, you will need to learn each other again...
2007-07-21 12:36:30 · answer #5 · answered by Luiza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make peace with her. Just because you were best friends does not mean you want to be the same again. Just talk it out so all the bitterness from the big fight is erased. keep in mind people change.
2007-07-21 04:47:00 · answer #6 · answered by lisaS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your ultimate mate is an fool, ignore approximately her. i became into sixteen as quickly as I misplaced my virginity and that i do no longer experience sorry approximately it, yet I do experience for you as as quickly as i became into at a occasion and went into the bathing room with a guy, who's now my boyfriend, and anybody theory we'd had intercourse in there so it unfold. i comprehend the sensation of folk asking you issues and it getting out everywhere, 13 is rather youthful, although this is reassuring to comprehend how close you're and how long you have prevalent one yet another/have been in a relationship. i do no longer think of you ought to situation approximately what anybody is asserting, and needless to say he won't be able to have carried out it with particularly some different ladies, is what you are able to tell your chum, that ought to characterize he ought to've cheated on you (which does no longer sound very possibly to ensue) OR he had intercourse previously he became into with you which ones ability he could have been 12 - that's ridiculous, he possibly does not have been waiting to even ejaculate then. although, I do think of you ought to bypass to a intercourse health center for the morning after pill and or advice, i comprehend this is style of an embarrassing element to do, yet once you probably did no longer have risk-free practices once you had intercourse then you definately ought to be pregnant - whether you have no longer began your era, you may get pregnant so do no longer think of this is a rule or excuse. in case you do no longer desire to bypass to a intercourse health center, or whether you do, i think of you ought to tell your mum, isn't it lots extra suitable than her looking out from somebody else? what's carried out is complete, and the final advice i grants is to make particular you're looking after no longer having used risk-free practices and to overall super the bigger person.
2016-10-01 14:02:55 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This poor and sad world is full of problems but we should know how to control and to go back to where we started or departed if something went wrong on our ways so pls make peace with her and try to be yourself, meaning tell her your like and dislike so that she may not go wrong again. good luck
2007-07-21 12:31:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if u believe that she has changed then i would give her a chance. just dont let it go as far as it did last time! but i believe that people deserve a second chance!
2007-07-21 13:36:29 · answer #9 · answered by Jennar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People grow up and apart, there will be more friends in your future, don't dwell, move on. God Bless.
2007-07-18 23:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by Bethy4 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋