When a women tells her spouse that she needs her space what does that really mean?
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shes an xspouse. she wont give me her new cell number she doesnt even give me her house number so i could call my kids she doesnt want me to come around the house or her job . she used to be ok with everything . but she says she's not screwing anyone .That. this the last thing on her mind . the only thing on her mind is school and her 4 boys. but totally denies it. I know she's BSing .does anyone feel the same way . please let me know your opinion. so i could print all your answers to show her if people agree with me or her.
2007-07-13 17:06:54 · 25 answers · asked by LIL Bear 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
By telling you she needs her space and won't give you the phone numbers, doesn't want you around the work or home - that is her way of telling you it's over. She probably is seeing someone else and either is too immature to tell you or wants to keep you waiting in case it doesn't work out.
Stand up for yourself - tell her to take a hike and find someone who will respect and care for you. Just don't forget about your kids.
As for your kids - in your divorce papers it should say something about notifying each other when one moves and providing accurate and current information to contact/see the kids. Focus on your kids - it's your right and responsibility - see her only as their mother and that's it. Just the ex-wife, nothing more.
2007-07-13 17:21:22 · answer #1 · answered by Wendy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand where you are coming from. In the first sentence, she is your spouse. in the second one she is your X spouse. Then later in the question you say; my kids, then, her four boys. Which is it?
Anyways, all this means is your toast, and you can't see that you are done yet.
If the boys are hers and not yours also, then you have no say in the matter. If she says that she doesn't want you in any part of her life, then you should just respect that and move on. If they are your kids, you will need a lawyer to straighten her out on your rights. Weather she likes it or not.
But she does not have to give you phone numbers, address or anything like that. If you go to court you will be able to see the kids. But it does not mean that she has to let you know where she lives, because she could just bring the kids to you and then pick them up. By the way your question sounds, you must be hounding her a lot. You should be glad she hasn't called the cops, and say that you have be stalking her.
2007-07-13 17:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by ronkpaws 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmmm....... Here is a thought. Maybe you were crowding her and didn't realize it. If you have kids, however, I can see how you would at least need her home number. It is really hard for us to give you advice when we don't have and idea of what's fully going on. The best advice I can give you is to communicate, communicate, communicate. If she doesn't want to be bothered with you that's fine, but she should be willing to make special arrangements for you to meet or pick up your kids through a third party. It's obvious you both have had some past issues, that's why your marriage didn't work in the first place. If she feels she needs some space then you should accept and honor her request. Your main concern should be your kids, not her. I will keep you in my prayers. Peace and God bless.
2007-07-13 17:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by cave man 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is an EX spouse or even if you are estranged, you have a legal right to see and/or talk to your kids.
Sounds like she is trying to cut you out of her life slowly, taking away your "privileges" (so to speak) little by little so that you are hurt less. I may be wrong. If I am, she is just being cruel.
Don't know the situation of your children so.....If you are unable to call your biological and/or legally adopted kids because she won't give you the phone number, then you need to contact a lawyer. If contacting and/or seeing the kids is not a problem, then you just need to let go and move on.
It's tough to move on I know, but think about it. You already know this.... its best for both parents and mainly, the children, to let go, when one spouse has moved on already. Be strong for you kids. Let her go if that's what she needs.
Good luck
2007-07-13 17:35:41 · answer #4 · answered by blue_id_baby05 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If she is your ex spouse, then what she does in her life is none of your business. The fact she wont give you her address or telephone number is very concerning because you are the father of her children therefore you have certain rights. If she is not giving you this much needed information for your chidrens sake then I would be seeking counsel from a lawyer. You have a right to see your children and if she is not willing for that to happen, then you will have to take it through the courts. Youre not an abusive spouse/father are you? If you are then I can certainly understand her actions. If you are a good and supportive father, then what she is doing is wrong....you have a right to see your kids (as long as you are not using them to get to your spouse)....therefore maybe a trip to a lawyer is in order.
2007-07-13 17:34:58 · answer #5 · answered by rightio 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have regular visitation with your children? If not then get her butt in court and set it up. Otherwise, tell her to piss off and forget her. Who cares who or what she's doing? Your divorced. Women are everywhere dude. All you have to do is open your eyes! There is obviously something that she doesn't want you to know. So? Make a life of your own and be sure not to include this woman. Life isn't worth wasting on has beens. Better to think about will be's. Good luck.
2007-07-13 17:21:56 · answer #6 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't understand the meaning of "ex-spouse". That means former spouse, as in the relationship is over and what she does is none of your business. You sound like you need some counseling to help you learn to cope before you get to the point where you need jail time for stalking.
Leave her alone, your relationship is with your kids only, and move on with your life.
2007-07-13 17:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shes using this as a wedge to get between you and your kids. Talk to her in a civilized manner and make sure you control yourself and NEVER get aggravated. Dont do anything stupid...
If talking doesnt work (Record phone calls..) bring it to the courts. Say she is not fit to be a parent since obviously she is trying a wedge in her kids and you can probably have a shot at custody. Dont let her get away with your kids, though. Ive seen it too much.
2007-07-13 17:10:59 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may want to move on. She does not want a relationship with YOU. Give her some time she will come around to letting you call the kids, once she feels you will leave her alone. Sorry that relationship is over!
2007-07-13 17:32:30 · answer #9 · answered by sparkling_apple 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if she is an ex-spouse then it is absolutely NONE of your business if she is screwing someone or not.
You and her are over so get over it, and realize her life is hers to do with as she pleases.
In regards to your kids,if you have an issue take it to court and let the courts decide.
If you continue to bother her she can file harassment charges against you...
2007-07-13 17:14:10 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋