My friend just gave birth and she has scared the crap out of me!?

Question

I am 3.5 months pregnant and my friend just let me know that delivery was HELL and she will keep most of it to herself. Too late! I'm scared. I now want to prepare more than ever. I am doing my kegel exercises and walking ... anything else to help?

Answer 1

My daughter just gave birth and she got to the hospital at 1:00am and by 2:30am she already had her baby boy 10 pounds 5 ounces. She had a normal delivery. And she did have some pain but it was something that is not as bad as you friend said. My daughter was walking every day for 30 to 45 minutes every day, and the doctor told her that was the reason she delivered so fast and with no problems. Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 2

Don't be terrified - Woman were created to have childeren so giving birth isn't all that bad. Your friend probably just had a tough delivery- it happens

Besides, it sounds from what you're doing, the delivery won't be so bad- but continue to do your exercises and such. But, the one thing you can do is make sure you and your baby are healthy. Take prenatal pills, and get your food nutrition.

If you and your baby are both healthy at the time of the delivery, then it should go more smoothly.

Now, I'm not saying it's going to be like smelling roses. It's gonna hurt a bit.

But, during labor, you can ask the doctor to give you some drugs, that will lessen the pain. (Don't worry, there are drugs that won't hurt your baby.)

Also, just a side note, the wider your hips (called baby-bearing hips), the easier the labor will be. There's nothing you can do to get baby-bearing hips, they're just in your genes. You might, or might not have them.

Hope that helps, and good luck!

Answer 3

Everyone has a "horror" story. But we all face up to it, it was painful for every last one of us. It's good that all she told you was it wasn't very nice.
Prepare yourself mentally more than anything. You are strong, you CAN give birth to a baby as many women have since the beginning of time. Your body was made for this. Be confident in yourself and educate yourself on labor techniques, possible issues that may go against your birth plan, and any medications that you may be considering.
Walking is a great exercise and will help strengthen your muscles for delivery. Kegels are excellent, good choice on your part. With your doctor's permission and limitations swimming is also an excellent choice.
Everyone is scared, especially the first time. You'll be okay just be confident in yourself and don't let anything anyone says scare you too much. :)

Answer 4

I'll be honest. I've had 2 children and am pregnant with my 3rd. I have also had 3 root canals done on my teeth.
I would 10 to 1 rather have a baby than a root canal.
Yes, it hurts pretty bad at first (pre-epidural) but as soon as the pain gets to be too much to bear you just press the little nurse button on your bed and in your best demonic voice, tell them you need something for pain. A few moments later they will give you something narcotic to alleivate the pain while you wait on the person administering the epidural.
At this point, you're pretty high and the pain has lessened considerably. They put it in your IV, so it works in seconds.
Once the epidural kicks in you'll be numb from the chest down and won't feel a thing. I didn't even know my baby was coming. The nurses had to tell me.
The point is, people will try to scare the pee out of you but it's honestly not that bad.

Answer 5

Attend pre-natal classes. The good ones will fill you in on what to expect and what can go wrong, teaches exercises and controled breathing techniques to help you through the labor, show pain relief choices - the pros and cons, and generally give you the information you need to make informed, conscious choices about you, your labor and your baby.
Also talk them out with your doctor or birthing professional, they can give you some information too.
And I can let you know that labor isn't the same for every one, or even for each birth. I have given birth 4 times and my eldest is now an adult. Do you really think that if all the horror stories were true, that there would be women going through it more than once?
A relaxed and informed mother, is the best bet for a good labor. So best wishes for you and your little one.

Answer 6

labor and delivery is different for every woman. Some have it easy like my sister who pushed twice and out came baby and some are like my friend mary who pushed for hours and finally had the baby and was in pain for 2 days after and on vicodin because of it. Then there is the emergency c-section that my cousin almost died from. My boys were difficult but I made it through the delivery drugfree and recovered fast. It just depends on how you do. You won't know until you get there really what all will happen but being prepared helps calm down the stress because you know that you are atleast somewhat prepared. I knew the breathing and focusing when i went into labor but forgot a few times to breath because of the pain but believe me it is all worth it when you hold your baby in your arms for the first time.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

It will be ok hun, i have a 9 year old daughter and I know what you are going through. Labor and delivery is different for everyone, yes im sure its painful but it can also be a beautiful experience. Just be sure to keep doing your exercising, take your prenatal vitamins, eat healthy and just take really good care of yourself. Read as much as you can on your fears, they wont seem so bad the more you understand them and know what to expect. I wish you the best of luck and I know youll do fine.

Congratulations on your precious soon to be addition.

Answer 9

Don't worry. You're going to be fine! It's actually scarier because your friend WON'T talk about it, because now she's leaving it up to your imagination to think about what could possibly go wrong. And believe me, even if your friend would have told you exactly why her labor was "hell," the chances of you having a labor anything like hers is very small.

I am 7 months pregnant with my 3rd kid. First of all, if it was really that bad, do you think women like me would get preggo on purpose after the 1st??? Second of all, my first 2 labors were completely different from each other. With my first, I had a 36 hour labor, had an epidural, but it was extremely painful to push, so I ended up pushing for 2 hours. With my 2nd, I was fully expecting a long labor, so I stayed at home longer than I should have. By the time I got to the hospital, there was no time for an epidural because the baby was out in 20 minutes! It was actually easier than the one with the epidural. So with this 3rd one, I STILL don't really know what to expect. (Believe me, I'm still hearing horror stories that I don't really want to think about either!)

Anyway, the best advice I can give you (because it worked for my nerves when I was pregnant with my 1st) is to educate yourself about labor and different ways to get through it. Then just relax and know that you will be able to handle whatever ends up happening in your labor, because you have to!

And really--even though I won't tell you that labor is a breeze--it probably looks (and sounds) worse than it actually is. Because when you're listening to a story about a mom who just went through labor, or watching tons of TLCs "A Baby Story," you have tons of mental energy to think about how much it sucks and how much pain you are going to go through. But when you are actually in labor, the hours fly by faster than you'd think, and all of your mental energy is focused on what you're going to do next (get through a contraction, go to the hospital, get an epidural, etc.).

Anyway, good luck to you! I know you'll get through this, because you are a woman, and your body was made for this!!!

Answer 10

Don't freak out! Don't listen to other peoples horror stories about their births of their children! Each birth is unique and unto itself! You must remember, the baby does HAVE TO COME OUT at some point! I won't lie to you, it's painful, but you can handle it, that is what us women do! So, just suck it up, and don't worry, she probably didn't take breathing (lamaze) classes, or practiced any type of relaxation methods, and lost her focus, because she couldn't deal with it, but that is HER --- NOT YOU! So, just kick back, relax, enjoy your pregnancy, and practice your breathing excercises, and just let labor happen - it's the worst pain you'll go through, but the MOST rewarding, and you'll be amazed, how much you forget about the pain the moment that baby is placed in your arms. It's absolute heaven on Earth! Best wishes, and STOP WORRYING! :0)