... he went to church and didn't ask me to join him! I feel so hurt! and I just found out that he wasn't going to tell me...
2007-07-13 16:45:04 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I told him he is not my friend and from now on I will not believe anything he says and that he is a liar. And I don't feel bad at all for saying it!
2007-07-13 16:48:08 · update #1
we always go together
2007-07-13 17:21:15 · update #2
to shineOn:
he told me because I would laugh at him.
This has never happened before, after I took such good care of him after his surgery, after I always ask him to come with me to put flowers on my grandmothers grave, after we always go to church together to pray for our kids.
This doesn't make any sense!
He probably has amnesia!
2007-07-13 17:48:05 · update #3
As a Christian I think you should sit down and have a long heart to heart talk with him and find out why he felt the need to lie about going to church. Tell him that you don't appreciate being excluded and would like to go to church with him. Good communication is the key to all relationships, and remember, a family that prays together, stays together. I will keep you both in my prayers. Peace and God bless.
2007-07-13 16:55:55 · answer #1 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Why would he not want to take you to church with him? Are you sure that is where he went? How did you find out he went to church and what do you mean he wasn't going to tell you? Also...how could he convince you that he was at the bank for the hour or so that church lasts??? Maybe it is time you looked at your marriage a little closer. You are right, he is not your friend or a good husband if he lies to you. AND...how can he want to go to church and tell lies at the same time...isn't that opposite of what church and God is about?
He definitely has a problem. You should go with him next time he goes to the bank maybe.
jeese...
2007-07-13 23:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by CC Babydoll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on you for saying such things to a man who made a decision towards religion. Have you thought that there may be certain things in his life that he wants the lords help with that doesn't necessarily include you? One time of going to church is not reason enough for you to act as if he was sinning. If it continues, simply ask him if you could go with him next time. He may find it refreshing, because from the sounds of it, you may be one of the reasons that he IS going by himself. Get a grip. He's not sleeping with your mother or sister is he? You actually have allot of growing up to do.
2007-07-14 00:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe there was a reason he didn't tell you, like if i were to start going to church right now after having not been for 5 years, i wouldn't tell my husband until i got more comfortable with the idea just because i would feel judged even though in reality he would never judge me for trying to be a better person. maybe you should try to support your husbands new found faith even though you feel excluded and then he may be more willing to share his feelings on these kinds of things with you in the future.
2007-07-14 00:41:21 · answer #4 · answered by tamara 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I find that very odd...and makes me very curious why he would do such a good thing without you....does he feel your not worthy to be in Church?
2007-07-13 23:52:40 · answer #5 · answered by Goodspeed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when he went to church was it like a mass? if not than maybe he went to church to be alone, to think, or to pray. I don't really know everything so I'm probably not much help.
2007-07-14 01:18:56 · answer #6 · answered by wow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't blame you one bit! Did you ask him why he lied about it? I would love to know what that answer was. He really has some explaining to do! I know some have said that your response to him wasn't the best, but I say...he had it coming. That's my opinion. If someone lies for any reason, they shouldn't expect someone to be on their best behavior. Good luck to you. Hope he learns something from this.
2007-07-14 00:30:15 · answer #7 · answered by ShineOn 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something that you like and volunteer for it. Meals on Wheels/ Girl Scouts/ Children's Hospital, etc... Great way to meet friends and feel good about what you are doing. He will probably respect you for it as well.
2007-07-13 23:51:18 · answer #8 · answered by heathyd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have you thought about why he wanted to hide this from you? You are mad because he went to church. Doesn't that tell you anything about your behavior?
2007-07-13 23:57:49 · answer #9 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure he knows what a hypocrite he is. Lying to you then going to church doesn't sound very holy to me. Are u sure he even went to church?
2007-07-13 23:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by my2thingz 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋