1. I don't know personally
2. did something to hurt me bad, not rape just lied and caused me a proble that I can't get rid of and impacts my future
3. is not sorry for it
4. I will never see again
should i write a letter?
I want to be free from this anger (anger is such an ugly thing)
I tried to see him as a person with faults and to forgive, but I can't help stop him.
2007-07-13 15:49:17 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
I know I asked this already, but I don't think people understood what I meant.
2007-07-13 15:54:44 · update #1
sorry I said 'can't help stop him', I meant can't help hating him!
2007-07-13 15:56:00 · update #2
No, I am old enough to handle pregnancy or an STD. This person was in a place of authority and abused it.
2007-07-13 16:10:42 · update #3
With a person that shows no remorse for wrong doing,addressing him will not do you any good. So you are going to have to deal with this on a very personal level. Write out what you want to say to him. Ask whoever you pray to to help you find forgiveness. Now the thing about forgiveness is it is more for you than the wrong doer. I'm sure you know if you let this stay in your heart you will suffer not them. Ok now take the paper and burn it. Picture your hurt, pain, disappointment going away with the smkoe. It will begin the healing. As far as damage to your future. Only if you let it. I'm sure this isn't the 1st time this person has acted in this manner.
2007-07-13 16:50:39 · answer #1 · answered by gone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I may be way off track, but did this guy give you an STD or get you pregnant? You mentioned that he, "caused me a problem that I can't get rid of and impacts my future." This could have many meanings.
Why would a person you don't know personally lie about you and cause you such problems? What did he gain? How did this happen?
If he did something you can press charges against him for, then do. I would be careful about sending him a letter because he might become angry and want to get even. Your question is hard to answer because we don't know exactly what happened to you.
Anyway, I wish you luck. You might want to ask the question again and be more specific if you can so you can get better answers. BLM
2007-07-13 16:04:31 · answer #2 · answered by BLM 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not sure how well I can express this, but under the circumstances you have described...you just need to let it go. Let go of the anger...realize that you were entitled to it but now it is a problem for you. Realize that there is nothing you can do, that it may not be fair but it happened. You can't and shouldn't seek revenge and at this point, your anger hurts no one but you. Hurting yourself is the motivation you have for letting go of it. I think the event itself probably hurt you too and that will take a little time but you are on the right track trying to find a way to forgive. You are so right that anger is an ugly thing. Nursing it only serves to eat at us from the inside. Let it go and push it away from your thoughts.
2007-07-13 16:16:21 · answer #3 · answered by Lisa D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes , for your own peace of mind you need to forgive & move on .
Unresolved anger & unforgiveness can eat away at the core of your being ....the only person to suffer is you !
The suggestion to express yourself in writing is a good idea ....it helps to consolidate your thoughts & to purge the anger from your spirit !
Don't delay any longer ....write it down ! As to whether you actually pass the email or letter on to the individual concerned isn't necessarilly the point ! This is about you , not him !
2007-07-13 17:21:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You do not have to write, call or anything to him in person.
Just pray to God for the removal of any anger or hatred towards this person.
God really wants each and every one of us to turn to him.
Ask God in the name of Jesus Christ our Lord and Savior to place an anointing on you of the Holy Spirit.
That He may bless you in this time of trouble and pain. Praise God always and worship continually in truth and with agape love.
All this being said, you could go to this person and let them know, what they said was hurtful and it was wrong.
Sometimes people can be unapproachable, that is why seeking wisdom from God at this time is best.
Also ask God that you wish to pray for this person that this person may come to know and accept Christ. This person may see their evil and bad ways, that they may come to the understanding of the grace that God saves us by through faith in Jesus Christ.
Have faith and be strong.
2007-07-13 16:18:45 · answer #5 · answered by from above 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to forgive for your own well being, holding on to anger is like drinking poison and hoping the other person dies. forgive, that doesn't mean you have to socialize with the person.
2007-07-13 15:56:56 · answer #6 · answered by sue dean 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
just write you feeling towards him in an e-mail or a letter then don't send it right away think about how you feel after it is written if you feel freed then don't send it if you feel you must send it then send it
2007-07-13 15:53:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
write him a letter but don't send it
2007-07-13 15:53:53 · answer #8 · answered by keri gee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋