i need help answering an email from a friend!?

Question

here it is:
im really really tired of this..for four or five years ive had a crush on you..you know that..but you know..it's never gone away..and its annoying cause you are so..so..I don’t know..I don't even know..to me its frustrating..I don’t' want to go out with you..I do love my gf..and I swear you this is the last time I say this but I just had a fight about this..and so im telling you this..because I want a response from you..some kind of human emotion..like you actually care about our friendship..something..I just want something other than an ok..I know you don't like me..and im not expecting you to..I just want some feedback..so I can put this behind me..and so we can be friends..cause im not really sure if we are..I mean im pretty sure we are..but its so hard to tell w/ you.. i like to keep things bottled up..but lately you have been on my mind..and I want to make sure we are friends admit that I do have a tiny crush on you

i dont like this friend and i have no idea what to tell him because i dont really care i would have rather not received this email but he keeps bothering for a response

Answer 1

Sounds complicated, but here is something you could say (if this is what you feel).
Look, I really care about you. I think you an outstanding guy. Our friendship means a lot to me and anything more would ruin what we have. I'm sorry things between us won't work out, but just know that I'm here for you and we are definitely friends.

Answer 2

Well seriously I feel if this is a close friend honesty is the best policy.

For example--what do you feel? Are you happy that he likes you or are you like OMG it would ruin the friendship?

I feel you shoudl be completely honest and respect the friendship. If you have always wished something more could be...tell him.

I've always wished we could have been more as well. I really would have liked something more to develop but...as you said, the timing wasn't right and you are with this great girl.

Or if you were never interested be polite.

I've always thought you were the best person in the world. I've respected you and honestly been so grateful that you're in my life. However you are right to love your gf. It owuld never work for us.

He wrote this in an extremely emotional situation. You owe at least that much to the friendship. Don't worry about saying something you will regret later b/c this person is showing extreme vulnerability in expressing this to you and afterwards is going to wish he hadn't sent it. He will be much happier if you mutually show a vulnerable side. He needs to know you aren't laughing at him behind his back.

He said he doesn't want to break up with his gf for you. But some understanding of the fact that he loves you and has always compared his gfs to you is necessary. That your friendship is strong enough to withstand this honesty. And that if you ever hoped it might could go further at some point--this is the moment to express it. And if you don't want it to--this is the moment to express exactly how you feel. Even if it makes you feel embarrassed, even if its really personal and something you'd never say--this is the moment to share that.

B/c your friend is vulnerable and if you don't open up with the same amount of vulnerable reply and don't express just as much raw emotion--he will feel regret and it will change your friendship.

Answer 3

wow powerful
you say that you and your gf have had a fight over this intruder, and you say you love her, but what is this really about? your friendship with a long lost crush or a test of your faithfulness towards your gf? Who ever is that other person should finally let go of the chains around your feelings. only if you truly love your gf you will painfully let that other girl leave your mind forever even as friends

Answer 4

He just wants you to tell him how you feel about him having a crush on you like are you happy are you sad are you angry- stuff like that. He probably feels sort of empty like that he told you how he feels honestly and you didn't really have much to say about it.

Answer 5

First of all do you like this friend? if you do then respond back with your own feelings, but if you don't its better not to respond by e-mail try making it personally sometimes e-mails can read wrong. If you are taken then tell her it can't be good luck!

Answer 6

try to imagine if u were the 1 with that crush would u want him to treat u like crap. if u do not like him them at least do not hurt his feeling try to be nice . goooooooooood luck.