I am almost 24 and have no kids..is that unusual, weird, or uncommon?

Question

I know to a lot of people 24 is really young, but so many people on here and people I know in real life that are my age either already have children or are pregnant. I am not married either but I do live with my boyfriend and we're in a committed relationship. i'm beginning to think I'm left out or behind for my age. The truth is, I do want children, right now would be great for me emotionally but not financially and my boyfriend doesn't want any right now. Also I have a strong desire to travel to foreign countries as I have just finished college and have also never seen the outside of the United States. But I am worried when I finally am financially ready and my boyfriend is ready financially and emotionally, and when I have done my traveling, that I will be too old. Also, this is a slightly different question, but: I also want to travel with my boyfriend but he doesn't have the means to. I dont either exactly, but I plan to do it anyway in the next year. Would it be okay to go alone?

Answer 1

I think you are smart.

Answer 2

For the question of age and having kids, don't worry about having kids right now, it will happen for you when it's supposed to.

As for the travel, you should definitely travel while you're young before you have kids because as soon as you have kids you're really not going to have the time to see what the world has to offer for you. I would say if you really want to get outside the U.S. to see what there is you should just go for it, of course make sure you know where you're going and what you're going to see so that you're not just jumping into another country blindly. You might start by traveling to Canada or Mexico since they're still on this continent and it wouldn't be too far to travel from home (depending on where you are in the country of course). Please make sure you're going with at least one other person, it's safer for you and for your family to know that you're going with at least someone else. There are some pretty weird people out in this world. Anyway, I would say traveling is a must. I've traveled to Canada and all over the East part of the U.S. it's beautiful! I'm waiting for the day I finally get to jump on a plane and discover Europe. It'll be amazing! Take some of your girls on a week trip or something, just bonding time with friends.

Best of luck!

Answer 3

I had my son at 28, and I doubt that I was ready. I sure wasn't financially ready. Women are waiting longer and longer to have children, so that they can enjoy their lives before settling in. It is so unbelievably different when you have a child--you are limited in so many ways that you would never think of before. Traveling is a whole different ball game with a child. Heck, just running out to the grocery store becomes a whole production when you have a child to take along.

It sounds like you have some things that you would like to do that you would not be able to after you have begun a family. Perhaps sitting down with your boyfriend and talking about some plans, short term and long term would give you both a chance to talk about your priorities and your feelings.

Finally, don't worry about being left out or behind for your age. What is important is what is right for you personally and your goals for the future.

Good luck!

Answer 4

I feel the same way (and I'm only 22)! So many people are having kids already, and I almost feel behind. I'm recently married and so both of our families are already asking, "when are the babies coming?" I'm thinking, "what babies?" I really want to have children, but there are so many other things I want to be doing now. I don't think that anyone is ever "financially ready" to have kids, but when you are older and have gotten those major purchases out of the way (buying dependable vehicles, a home, some sort of savings) then it's better for you and for your kids. The way I think of it, if I have kids no, then when they are grown, I'm going to be trying to go back out and live up my "young" years since I spent those times having children. It refreshing that you (in your early 20s) want to wait to have children. You are not alone.

On the traveling question, it really depends on how committed you and your boyfriend are. Almost married, then you should wait until you both can. If you are already thinking of going alone, go ahead...but, don't expect him to be completely understanding. Do what you think is best: which could be sacrificing one of your present dreams to be with the one you love, or leaving him and seeing what's out there.

Answer 5

You should not look to the future too quick but look at the present, are you and your boyfriend going to get married, do you feel you love your boyfriend. These question should be answered first and then you have a better understanding on having kids, once you are financially secire and your boyfriend and you are committed to each other you can have kid. for the travel part if you get married you too can go any place for you honeymoon and and travel with kids, you may need to wait for them to mature at thre age 5 or 6, or you can leave them at your parents house for a few weeks while you and your bf enjoy time together.

Answer 6

i know how you feel im 26 and don't have any kids yet and i want to have kids now but of course i am not financially ready. After all the emotions calmed down I thought about it and realized that i still have a lot of goals i want to fulfill now. So since you want to travel the world, fulfill your goals first and work on preparing yourself for the future. you will have kids don't worry and your going to be a good mother too. Peace!!

Answer 7

i agree with everyone else. 24 is not old. Do all the traveling and stuff you can. But at the same time you will never be done with traveling. You'll fall in love and want to do it all the time. So do some traveling and then have kids when you are ready is my advice. :)

Answer 8

If your only motivation for having a child is to be "just like everyone else" then don't do it!! You would very soon end up resenting that child for tying you down and spoiling your dreams.

And the world we live in now, is NOT a safe place for a female to travel alone without money. For one thing, you wouldn't even be able to enter most countries if you can't prove that you have the means to support yourself without becoming a burden on that country's resources.

My brother tried just this in the late 70's. Ended up coming down with pneumonia in the Alps, when he got stuck camping in the mountains in the early winter (nobody ever said he was smart!). Ended up running up such a health care bill that the only way to pay it off was to prostitute himself. Mostly to rich arabs. Most of whom like it rough.

If that is a scenario you want to live with, go ahead and make that trip alone.

Answer 9

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Answer 10

Do you know how HARD IT IS for someone very young, to afford to raise a child? Don't be silly. You have a lot of time ahead of you to have kids. There's no reason to rush it! I know from experience! I am 42 and my son is 25. I am NOW pregnant with my second child. It's one helluva lot easier this time around.

Answer 11

its not weird that u dont have kids..u might think it is because people start having children at like 5 now..

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if ur boyfriend wants to travel then he needs to start saving money.he just needs some time, and if u and your boyfriend trust each other then theirs nothing wrong with you traveling alone.