late....should I give him a hard time when he gets home? I'm not sure why he gives me a hard time, sometimes he acts joking about it but basically I think he thinks I dwattly and that's why I get home late sometimes....I know this is really stupid/immature but would you give him a hard time???
2007-07-13 14:23:55 · 16 answers · asked by SadToday22 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes I would. I'd give him a taste of his own medicine and let him know how it feels. Maybe then he will realize how you feel when he does it to you. What's good for the goose is good for the gander.
2007-07-13 14:28:03 · answer #1 · answered by Tennessee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just curious, what is dwattly?
As for your husband giving you a hard time for being late?
I was married for 13 yrs when my wife started to be late from work and social events (that she would not invite me too), about three months after she started to do this, I found a letter from her lover describing how much he like her but had to call it off because his wife had the baby and he had to be a good father now. She was being dumped after going to motel and hotel with him to have sex while I stayed at home worrying about her...Now if you have been a wonderful wife, have never cheated on him...he should not have a reason to be nasty to you. But always remember, how you would feel if your husband never called you to let you know he would be late, your mind started playing games with you, you starting thinking what if he was in an accident, or what if he didn't love you anymore and was having an affair? Nevertheless, a call is not a difficult thing to do is it? It just show that you love him and care about him worrying about you due to his love for you.
I hope this help a little, and I hope your marriage last forever!
God Bless
2007-07-13 21:56:03 · answer #2 · answered by Joel H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be the better person and don't give him a hard time. instead just wait till he's relaxed and cooled down from his day and talk to him. the best thing in a relationship is communication but good communication not bad communication. just let him know how you feel about him giving you a hard time. also you can try giving a time to him at about what time you will be home and plan you day so you can get home at that time. its easy as long as you follow your schedule. if you give him a hard time it will only make it into a huge argument and then it won't be pretty....hope you do the right thing
2007-07-13 21:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definately. But if he starts getting worked up into a fight, joke it off and smile a lot....just ask him how it feels to have someone try to box him in. Who knows, he may feel borderline loved because you missed him all the way to angry!
My husband said he felt really loved when I had a bad dream about a crashing airplane then didn't want him to fly the next morning, so much so that I blocked the door with tears and sobs. He did eventually make his flight...and didn't crash.
2007-07-13 21:32:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. This may sound small but this is how people get divorced...because nether is big enough to back down or be humble about things. They feel that there is always payback.
Remember the Golden Rule
2007-07-13 21:44:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just for a little while (for fun), then tell him you're giving him a hard time b/c you miss him and it's taking away from your quality time together..then ask him why he gives you a hard time. He might feel the same way and knowing this, you may both work harder to get home on time :)
2007-07-13 21:34:09 · answer #6 · answered by LoveSlave 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband and I fuss on and off and when he fuss at me for something and I fuss back at him when he does it it just makes things worse.
I know how you feel. I have been there.
In the end you will have to be the one to make this choice and if you make the wrong one you might have to play the price. As in another fight. So I would think long and hard about it before I did it.
2007-07-13 21:31:22 · answer #7 · answered by Msbearr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't give him a hard time, that won't solve anything. It will just create more animosity between the two of you. He probably doesn't realize the effect it is having on you. That's why you need to TALK to him about it. If he cares that it bothers you then he will stop. If he doesn't care, well then that's a problem.
2007-07-13 21:29:36 · answer #8 · answered by beanie_babymama 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No this is the prefect time to explain to him how it makes you feel.
Let him know that it makes you feel like he doesn't trust you and that it hurts you ever time he says it.
Tell him he just walked in late and you believed him when he said he had to work late, and you didn't think he was screwing around
Communication is the Key and right now your holding them
2007-07-13 21:56:13 · answer #9 · answered by G O 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to start an argument? Forget if he thinks you're...what?..."dwattly"? Sorry..being an American I think the term we'd use is "Airhead".
So...show him you're not. I don't know how. Maybe just tell him one day you aren't. But don't look for trouble over something as stupid as this. You'll only receive a misreable weekend.
2007-07-13 21:29:34 · answer #10 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋