last year I went to a strip club on my friends b-day and i lied about it to my wife. she found out a week later and ever since she has been tripping. what do i do to fix this problem; i dont want it to ruin our marriage.
2007-07-13 14:21:22 · 11 answers · asked by stephen b 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What she really has a problem with is that you LIED if you would have told her to begin with she would have trusted you more. Don't lie anymore about anything. Just tell her everything it's what my husband does and I really appreciate his honesty, even when it hurts.
2007-07-13 14:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by kimberly 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually it is the lie that your wife is getting about not the strip club. She is also annoyed that you actually lied about it right under her nose - which men sometimes do so thinking they can get away with it when in fact, we women already knew.
You need to come clean, and apologise for that. In addition, you will need to rebuild her trust in you again - i.e. never lie about anything again. If you do not want this one time strip club visiting to ruin your marriage, you will also need to let her know the reasons why you lie - that is you do not want to think that you love her any less - but on the contrary, you love her too much and thus do not want to lose her to your one-time strip club visiting event...
Sincerity and of course, your actions will only be the thing to buy her trust again.
2007-07-13 17:52:55 · answer #2 · answered by Jose 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lies, especially when they involve things of a sexual nature, are baaaad, Billy. Er...Stephen.
I'm sure she's going through the motions of wondering what else you've tried to hide from her. You've probably slept with her mother in her mind. And yes, it can get that bad.
You have to admit to her that you were wrong. Not for going to the strip club but for hiding it from her. I don't know how jealous she is but it sounds like she might have some of that kicking.
It's going to take time to help her regain trust. You have to use every waking second to regain her trust. You have to take every opportunity to reassure her that you aren't thinking of other women. You have to reassure her that you will let her know about all your activities from the start. I'm not saying you have to beg for permission. Just be honest about what your doing and don't make her have to find out things you've done from anyone other than you.
2007-07-13 14:29:15 · answer #3 · answered by DragonOpinion 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
She cares more about the lie than the strip club. Find a way to prove to her that you won't lie anymore, and she'll feel more at ease.
2007-07-13 14:23:58 · answer #4 · answered by Bwilkerson 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Suggest counseling. If she refuses, I suggest a lawyer. She's being entirely unreasonable. A visit to a strip club is not cheating. If you've apologized for lying about it, that should suffice. Tell you what, though: few of us would put up with her ranting for this long! No marriage is worth putting up with that. It sounds to me as if she's not interested in the marriage, and you'd better get a lawyer and learn what your rights and obligations are before she sees one and blindsides you.
2007-07-13 14:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
do a striptease show for her. wear loin cloth and oil your self down. but puhleezeeee if you are bald stocky with a pot belly disregard this advice
2007-07-13 14:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
chances are she doesnt trust you cuz you lied to her
so show her a way she can trust you
2007-07-13 14:25:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
once you have broken trust it is hard to regain what you have lost
2007-07-17 00:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bring her to one
maybe then she will forget all about wanting to become a stripper
2007-07-13 14:24:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
it's in her blood you can't tame a wild animal
2007-07-13 14:24:36 · answer #10 · answered by @NGEL B@BY 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋