Don't get me wrong- he is the love of my life, the most fantastic son, I don't want him to leave.....but I guess I assumed he was moving out at 18 like my brothers and sisters and I did. Doesn't everyone want to get out on their own at that age? I mean, college, dating, all that "growing up stuff?"
Am I crazy for having secretly wanted this for me and my child?
2007-07-13 13:12:11 · 21 answers · asked by The Grand Inquisitor 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would do anything for my son to still be at home!Don't worry about the age,enjoy his young years,mine is almost 25 and things do change between you when they are gone!You will miss so many things,if you are really close!
2007-07-13 13:16:59 · answer #1 · answered by happy1here♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have him get his grades up and also since there are younger children in the house, i would make a rule that he is to come home at a reasonable time and not have friends in and out at all hours. Seeing as how he is still 17, you still have the right to tell him what to do. Also, if he wants to do things when he was 18 that you do not agree with you can always make him start paying his own bills. I am 21 and have a kid and I am married. I live with my mom and step-dad while my husband is in korea. I even have rules to go by plus i pay them 200 a month in rent and have to buy groceries. Like i said, he is still 17, you are still his legal guardian. Be the boss of him, dont let him be the boss just yet
2016-05-17 06:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of people don't move out when they are 18 anymore. The cost of living is expensive and it's hard for teens to get a job as hard as that may sound to believe. At 18 I was a single mom and had gone to trade school making okay money, but I still didn't move out until I was 21 and that was because I got married. I say if he has no intentions of moving out, fine. But he should have intentions of going to college and working and helping around the house, physically and financially. Good Luck!
2007-07-13 13:22:37 · answer #3 · answered by claudine15 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine my son leaving when he turns 18. Of course, I would try to guide some of his decision making about wanting his own place or being on his own..... but they are not all magically ready at the age of 18. I think it is important to foster a certain "work ethic" in your adolescent, they should be in college, or working full time if they are not in school. Should not foster an attitude that it is ok to live with mom and dad forever, but also don't rush them out. They grow up so fast, and you will miss them when they are gone.
2007-07-13 13:17:55 · answer #4 · answered by xfilekel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone is staying in the nest longer. The saying goes 30 is the new 21 meaning before kids moved out at 21. Now they wait until they are 30.
2007-07-13 13:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by MensaMan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they don’t more people are remaining at home longer.
You do know once he is 18 you can legally kick him out of the house. In my opinion as long as he just isn’t sitting around the house he is working or going to school I don’t see anything wrong with it. My nephew will be 19 and is going to LSU in the fall but he is living at home to safe money, he has a steady girlfriend and a job. His parents are cool as long as he doesn’t bring drugs into the house he has pretty much free reign can come and go as he wants etc.
2007-07-13 13:41:46 · answer #6 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not crazy. Although, life is different than the past.
When I turned 18 I didn't have a free ticket at home. I paid a token amount for rent & food.That is forsure an incentive to move out.
Set some boundries. Write them out. Have concenquences.
Even make your son sign the agreement plan.
If he stays home he needs to be working & going to school.
Plus paying a small amount of rent. The kid needs to realize what it costs to live.
2007-07-13 13:18:09 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This must be a tradition for most western cultures, but where I come from, most parents would keep their children under their own roof (sometimes even sharing the same house once their married). I believe you give him as much time as he needs to move on. Don't change anything or else it'll make him feel like you're kicking him out.
2007-07-13 16:19:49 · answer #8 · answered by Laz 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was totally NOT ready to move out at 18. Don't push him keep him around as long as he wants to be there (within reason) you'll miss it when it's gone. If I had moved out when I was 18 I'd maybe be a bum right now.
2007-07-13 13:16:01 · answer #9 · answered by jedi46300 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Well, if he's dorming in a college, no problem, but if he's joining the workforce right away, don't expect him to move out until he's 19 or 20. But that just means you get to keep your love for another year or two...but then he'll be gone forever!
2007-07-13 13:16:46 · answer #10 · answered by youdontneedtoknowme 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋