I'm trying to be ok with it but I don't know if I can be.
2007-07-13 12:18:13 · 15 answers · asked by SugarFreeRedBull 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. Why does he have drinking buddies? Is he immature? I see nothing wrong with having friends that you go out with occasionally (maybe monthly but not weekly)
2007-07-13 12:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Colette B 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is once a week too often for a man to see his friends? I don't think so.
If your man said to you, "Look, you can only go to lunch with the girls twice a month, you have a house to clean!" you'd be livid. So your man and his friends like to go to the bar and have a couple, no biggie. As long as he comes home to you, right? :)
Now, if he's going out and getting *trashed,* I'd say that's a problem, but only because I think people should grow out of wanting to be wasted all the time when they decide they're old enough to get married and have kids. But getting a buzz is fine.
2007-07-13 19:21:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, if it's going out drinking till the wee hours of the night and coming back trashed. If he goes out after work for a couple of beers and is home at a decent hour to spend some time with his family also, then no. If he wants to play the I need some time for myself card then he has no business being engaged to be married, he still wants to be single when he feels like it.
2007-07-13 19:42:36 · answer #3 · answered by melissa r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you not be ok with it? Its just one time a week. Its not like its every night. Besides everyone needs some friend time away the usual couple stuff and even father stuff. He just needs some guy time. Relax its not like he is asking for 3 times a week. Besides that I'm sure he stays with your son when you want to go out with your girl friends at times. So just give let him have some of his own personal space.
2007-07-13 19:24:06 · answer #4 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems like a lot.
Who takes care of the son?
How often do you go out TOGETHER?
How often do you go out with your girlfriends?
Is he "drinking" or just having his "man space"?
All important questions.
Can you compromise to every other week and see if you can both live with that?
Again, who is taking care of the son when he is out? Hopefully that isn't falling onto you by default. Then he has a caregiver, instead of a wife-to-be. Good luck.
2007-07-13 19:23:01 · answer #5 · answered by KarateMom 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just engaged. You don't own him yet. So I would say hell yes it's ok. Let the man have his peace as one night a week is far less than some go out.
2007-07-13 22:03:22 · answer #6 · answered by pappysgotitgoinon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My background and life experience says to me that your fiance probably doesn't want to change for you, but expects you to over look his bad habits. This is a major "red flag". Now, your heart tells you something is wrong and your not trusting your instincts because your questioning it here. Trust your own instincts and seek help and professional guidance before you walk down the isle. It will save many problems later. Like the old saying "pay me now or pay me later". If you get what I mean and I am sure you do!
2007-07-13 19:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by Sid P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I firmly believe that men need time with their friends and so do women. However, in saying that if the only thing you ever do with your friends is go out and drink, I'd wonder why. You need recreation but drinking isn't exactly healthy recreation.
2007-07-13 19:21:21 · answer #8 · answered by lady_phoenix39 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it should be okay if it's fine by ur future wife and I think all man need a little break once in a while
2007-07-13 19:21:04 · answer #9 · answered by kajal c 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not if you trust him. Don't crowd him or you will lose him. Also you goout once a weed too. Go have a life of your own and it wont bother you as much
2007-07-13 19:20:56 · answer #10 · answered by Brandi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋