property share?

Question

my girlfriend wants to move in with me but i dont want her to live with me for 6 months then leave and take half of everything i have worked for thanks to the stupid law system. i dont till plan on paying all the mortgage myself and she would only pay for her half of bills. obviously i cannot mention this to her. any help?

sorry i mean i do still plan on paying all the mortgage myself. dont mean to sound heartless but relationships dont last forever and i have worked hard for what i have

i live in england. think the law is 6 months

Answer 1

Although you like her as a girlfriend , moving in is pretty much marriage except you don't have a license .
How long have you been dating ? More than a couple of years ?
Before any moving in you would have to have a sit down / coffee talk and hammer out ALL the details , just like a contract ( & get it in writing ) .
Tell her moving in is the same as marriage and spell out everything you would expect from a wife - especially all of the financial expectations ( holding a job and paying bills and who gets to stay home should a baby come into the picture ).

But it sounds like you really don't care for her that much , soooo . . . just say you are not in the mode where you want to live with anyone 24 / 7 yet .

Good Luck !

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Answer 2

This is a good example of a time when it's ok to lie in order to spare someone's feelings.

Find someone else quick to be roommates with, then tell her your friend has no other place to live except here. That's how you tell her. Or tell her you're traditional, and that you can move in together when you get married, then change the subject to get her mind off the marriage thing. Or, tell her you're planning on moving to a better place soon, so it'll just be a hassle for her to move twice, as soon as you find this other place, then you can move in together.

Be careful here about living with a girl you have doubts about. I knew a guy who moved in with his girlfriend who he was absolutely sure was the "one", broke up about 1 year later with over $30,000 in debt, because she didn't make any house payments, made him buy the furniture and TV (which she took with her!!) and never cooked, so they ate out all the time, yeah he was so whipped and blind to it. You seem to have a good head on your shoulders though, but be careful to play this right so you can keep the girlfriend and reduce your chances of losing half your stuff when/if things go wrong.

Answer 3

well it doesn't become community property until you are married or living together for I think california is 7 years each state is a little different. Now thats not to say that you won't come home one day and she had moved out and taken everything. But you obviously trust her on some level not to do that or you wouldn't be moving in together. So here is where taking a leap of faith comes in. You need to tell her your concerns so she knows up front your concerns and she will probably ease your concerns. You also need to decide is what is more important your chance at love and the white picket fence or your materialistic items? Good luck to both of you...

Answer 4

Pre-cohabitation agreement. If you can't mention anything to her in advance, you are subject to the common laws that you live with. You are especially in trouble if you are having her pay part of the MORTGAGE.

Answer 5

I'm no lawyer, but unless you two get married I don't think she has any claim on your property, after six months or six years. If you do get married, do a prenup first.

Answer 6

If you don't trust her to stick around more than 6months & you can't talk to her about your feelings...WHY ARE YOU IN THIS RELATIONSHIP???

I suggest you don't move in together...seriously!

Answer 7

she's a roommate stupid