then married the man she cheated on me with, in 6 months. One might say well... she didn't love me, and now she is with the guy she loves? I think that is a crack of @#$%. we were together for seven years, Love is commitment , I would say she doesn't know what love is. and what are the odds that she will find unhappiness with her new husband? She grew up in the church? Divorce was not an option, but she did it anyway! and remarried! all while I was trying to save our marriage. now she is pregnant with this guy! talk about depression for me. I still can hardly breath!
2007-07-13 11:34:40 · 22 answers · asked by fstmx 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
And your question is what, exactly?
So your ex-wife is totally screwed up, has no morals, and probably will end up divorcing this guy as well. What's the point?
If you're that depressed after all this time, get some counseling.
2007-07-13 11:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear what happened to you. I can tell you are really hurting by this. If you don't mind me asking, how long ago was this? I've never been married so I definately can't say I know exactly how u feel but i do know what it feels like to be cheated on by someone you loved. I think the best thing for you to do is to try and move on with your life. I know it's gonna be hard but you can't let this keep you down. As far as her unhappiness, who knows? Karma is a real b**** though. Keep in mind that it was not your fault this happened, it was her selfishness. You will find happiness again with someone who is more deserving.
2007-07-13 19:04:07 · answer #2 · answered by **STAR** 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I'm not going to get the best answer on this one... I'm the wife in this scenario. All I can say is I married too young. I was brought up in church too and I never thought I'd get a divorce... but I was unhappy in my marriage and if my ex is honest (and he is) he will say he was too. I met a man who immediately filled every want, need, desire I ever had. I married him two days after my divorce was final. My ex and I have a great relationship as friends and co-parents, but we were not meant for marriage. I'm very happy now and I know my ex will be happier than ever when he finds his true match. Again, I know I'm not going to get best answer, but I hope that eventually you are able to let go of the anger and hurt (which you 100% entitled to) and let yourself be at peace so you can find someone who is perfect for you. Your wife obviously wasn't it. I wish you all the best.
2007-07-13 18:42:40 · answer #3 · answered by mi_suzi 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry man....
There isn't a whole lot you can do about that though.... you could think about how pissed her new husband will be when she cheats on him with another guy?
Did you have kids with her? If so, make sure you never voice your distaste (if you could call it that) for your ex-wife in front of them. I know that sounds hard, but my parents did that all the time and it made me just hate them both equally. Show your children love and you can hate your ex as much as you want on the inside.
Also, don't turn to alcohol.... it wouldn't be good. But signing up for an aggressive workout (boxing, westling, lifting, or cardio) could help you blow off steam and just work through your feelings.
Once again, i'm sorry for you, but stay strong and you'll prevail or evil...
2007-07-13 18:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by quicksilver7537 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let it go. She was quick to move on she found something in this guy that she didn't have with you and it's not anything you did I'm sure it has to do with what she wants she is pregnant already after what seems to me like about a year and was with you seven and never did something was wrong why before the affair. Go live life it's to short the sooner you accept this change in your life you could move on. Good luck.
2007-07-13 19:03:45 · answer #5 · answered by oreo29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, I know how hard this must be for you now, but look at the bright side. At least you still have time to find your Ms. Right. And it was only 7 years (I am not saying this isn't a long time and that you weren't invested) but at least it was 20 or more.
She's not the one for you and more than likely she won't find the happiness she is looking for with the new guy either.
Take some time for yourself, and then move on and find your special someone that will treat you right
2007-07-13 18:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by Lindsay G 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well guy what i have to say is breath and calm down don't do nothing you'll regret and just move on because u can
find love even if you think love is lost which i don't think is that hard to find try a www.eharmony.com or something were lots of people just like u are looking for love, peace and good luck.
2007-07-13 18:44:50 · answer #7 · answered by leanna m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, another one,lol. No really today most people dont know what love is, so your right about that,she really never loved you or she wouldnt leave you. You need to be stress free,, she will just bring you down to the dirt, so find another, or just worrie about yourself as she dont care. yup its over once they go over the edge.. So someone has to be out here for you.. trust me alot of people are online today,, just be yourself and dont lie and youll find another, make sure they understand what love is... you didnt say if yous had children, if you dont? move on,, if you do have kids make sure you are around them, kids need both perents... wish you luck and sorry to hear this,, so many today just like you..I was one also...
2007-07-13 18:45:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Excuse me but I don't need advise from a bitter a** man with a failed marriage, my situation happened BEFORE I met my husband, I'm also not a cheater or a slut like your ex-wife so dude get a fukkin life. Now I see why she cheated.
2007-07-13 18:46:55 · answer #9 · answered by UgetwhatUaskfor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry man. The best thing for you to do is look forward, not behind. Regardless if you understand why she did it or if she'll be happy doesn't matter, she's not a part of your life. Just focus on what you need to do for yourself to be happy. Don't pay any mind to what she's doing cause it just doesn't matter and it's preventing you from moving forward with your life.
2007-07-13 18:38:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋