After 3 years of my boyfriend deciding that he was going to do his drug I finally let him go . He decided to quit his job knowing that our rent went up $250 and is just like nothing so i decided that it was time to do the right thing and I left hes trying to give me the guilt trip now. Do you think I made the right decision. I m 25 i dont need this stress right now
2007-07-13 11:24:30 · 8 answers · asked by victoria c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
tough decision to make but better in the long run. don't enable him. think about how your life would be if you married him - he'd be on drugs, you'd be working (maybe 2 jobs), plus child-raising. it would be like you had your kids plus another kid (the bf would count as another kid...). you don't need the stress.
if you can take away the stressor from your life, do so. i think you did the right thing! don't give in to the guilt trip. he's trying to manipulate you into enabling him again. things are more difficult for him now that you're out of the picture and he's trying to get you back so you can pay his rent for him, and God knows what else (what? his food, his drugs, pocket money so he can go out with his friends and his "friends"?!). stay as far away as you can from this man.
2007-07-13 12:00:32 · answer #1 · answered by doktorangbaliw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. You did the right thing. After some time of not having to worry about him and his drug problem you will feel good about the decision you made. Since he is an addict he will be manipulative, so be smart and strong about the guilt trip he is giving you. Good luck.
2007-07-13 18:39:42 · answer #2 · answered by I39 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. I agree with all the people here. You deserve a good life and you did the right decision. Some old friends told me before that one can never really love another unless he/she knows how to love him-/herself. Apparently, he doesn't feel love for himself by wasting his life.
2007-07-13 18:41:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
U made the right decision. He's not putting u first and making logical choices.
If he wanted to desolve the relationship he should've done it the right way.
2007-07-13 22:48:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you made the right decision. He is trying to be a freeloading druggie. Stay away...far far away.
2007-07-13 18:30:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Imagine how bad it'd be if you married him and had a baby with him. Yeah... get out... get out now! He's a child trapped in a man's body. This might get him to clean up, but don't bother looking back, he probably won't be there.
2007-07-13 18:27:57 · answer #6 · answered by Aron1968_30 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've made a good decision. Stick by your guns. HE has problems, that YOU are unable to fix. Get on with your good life, that you deserve!
2007-07-13 18:30:59 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes!!! Don't talk to him! Go on with your life. You'll be better off.
2007-07-13 18:27:42 · answer #8 · answered by wc2ketey 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋