hi guys
i am 19 and i just fall in love with a 41 year old man who has got a family !!! he just care a lot about me and pay attention to me its not normal i can feel it some times he looks at me in a way that i just want to fly!!
we never talk about sex and he never says that he love me nothing
but i cat forget him he is so sweet he talk to me as much as i need he cares alot
what can i do now????
2007-07-13 11:07:49 · 19 answers · asked by hanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
He is way too old for you !! Maybe you just have a crush now but you need to find someone your age..You said he has a family, does that mean a wife and kids??? Stay away from him, its not a good idea...
2007-07-13 11:12:56 · answer #1 · answered by Thallasa35 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like complete bullshit in my opinion (sorry for the language). You're only 19, you probrably haven't had enough experience to really know what love is. That feeling, is basically the same feeling you get with anybody your eally like. If you can be with somebody a very long time, e.g a year, and still feel the same, then maybe it is love. If he really loved you he would have left his family a long time ago.
2007-07-13 11:13:15 · answer #2 · answered by Daniel/Laura Black. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN, don't walk, away from this man. He is a predator. He is using you because he realizes you need someone kind and sweet to talk to you. He is married, he has a family, and he's too old for you, even if he were single. When you're his age, he'll be an old man. You need to find someone much closer to your age. Don't give up. You're a good person and you'll find a man who deserves you.
2007-07-13 11:12:38 · answer #3 · answered by Elaine P...is for Poetry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go...he has a family. think about it this way, if you were in his kids position or his wife position, would you want someone to come and attempt to break up your home. Obviously he is a dog if he wants to be with you while he has a family of his own (or does he even want that) Maybe you want it and want to believe he wants it but you should let it go. One he is old, get someone who you can experience things as "firsts" with...dont let yourself slip so easily either. If its love youre looking for im sure it will come when it is supposed to, no need to rush honey...i am also 19 years old and i think we both have so much life ahead of us...live your life and dont worry so much about being involved, itll come to you when its time.
2007-07-13 11:13:52 · answer #4 · answered by ms neisha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well girl, I doubt that its love that your feeling.. Maybe your just not used to having boys your own age pay any attention to you. What usually happens is that a young girl meets an older man and is facinated with all the "things" that he has, like a car, a home, money in the bank and so forth. Just keep this in mind....when your 30...he will be in his sixties....and probably in a wheelchair...so be prepared to push.
2007-07-13 11:12:48 · answer #5 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello, I have a 19 year old , her name is Amy. If Amy told me this , I would advise her to tell him how she feels, so he can tell her what he wont's to do. Some men are just caring and understand but don't mean anything else by it.They wont to be helpful and sometime they do let them self's daydream, but then they come back to reality, and know it's not right. So just come right out and ask him. Good luck.
2007-07-13 11:46:12 · answer #6 · answered by maceyland 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should break all ties with this guy. Having a one sided relationship always ends in pain. The longer you deal with him the more you are going to love him. Since he has a family that makes it worst.
2007-07-13 11:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by LaTrice B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fall in love with a 43 year old man.
2007-07-13 11:10:32 · answer #8 · answered by Atticus 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't pursue it. You're too young to make that kind of important decision. Although many relationships work with age differences, this one just does not sound good. You probably have a fascination with him that he's not even aware of. He's got a family too. Don't do it!
2007-07-13 11:12:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hanna girl,
Please listen to me.
You will not get anything out of this relationship except heartache.
This man is probably going through a mid-life crisis and he's just seeing who he can get to be interested in him.
If it wouldn't be you, then it would be someone else.
He's not interested in you for a relationship or for falling in love with you, he's just trying to make himself feel better. To raise his ego (self-esteem).
He's just being a player and you are one of his play-ees.
You will get nothing out of this except heartache.
Please just stay away from him.
You will be better off.
2007-07-13 11:31:47 · answer #10 · answered by MommaBear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋