My best friend lives right next door to me. we have known each other since we were born. She has been to everyone of my games and i to hers. We have hugged a few times but that has been it. The othe day we were sitting in her back yard talking as we usually do. Sitting next to me she reached over and held my hand and rested her head on me. She didn't say anything but she has never done that. Is she looking to move more than friends?
I am so lost. what should i do?
i'm afraid that if we start moving in a relationship, and things bottom out. I will lose my best friend
I'm afraid if i don't i could also lose my best friend.
am i being selfish?
HELP ME PLEASE
2007-07-13 10:49:40 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Since she is your best friend, you should be able to discuss this openly. Be honest with how you feel about her doing that and what the options are.
I was friends with my boyfriend for almost 2 years before we started dating. It is soooo much better to know the significant other as friends first. Think about how you feel. Do you want anything further? If you don't, be honest and tell her. Maybe she just wanted some TLC and knows she can trust you not to do anything to her by her showing that she needed TLC. Talk to her about it. Ask her why she did it, or just accept that she felt the need to be closer to you. You could ask her if anything is wrong. Maybe she wanted to talk about something and didn't know what to say. She may have just wanted to be held. Who else can you honestly tell or talk to openly besides your best friend?
2007-07-13 10:56:14 · answer #1 · answered by Stephanie F 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I'm not speaking from experience but my best friends has been Through almost the same thing. She has been best friends with the guy who lived behind her since 6th grade they dated once or twice but they are still best friends now. so i don't think you have to worry about losing your best friend.If she does want more out of your "relationship" and you do to then you should tell her that you don't want to mess up your friendship.That is what my friend did and they are still best friends to this day.
Maybe she was having a bad day and needed someone to lean on (after all your the best friend and that falls under the description.)Or maybe she does want something more,if you feel that you do to talk to her about it. If worst comes to worst ,somebody get embarrassed, but she's your best friend who better to be embarrassed with?
GOOD LUCK!!
P.S- don't overthink anything it will just make the whole thing much worse then it already is !!
Oh you are being selfish but the good kind of selfish, nobody wants to lose thier best friend.
2007-07-13 11:03:17 · answer #2 · answered by Reading Freak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not being selfish at all, she maybe has been getting the signals wrong but dont say anything to her yet she might get embrassed or upset! She might of done this in a friendly way and didn't mean anything by it. Just keep being friends and if she trys anything explain to her in a nice way that you love her as a friend and that you dont want to get into a relationship in case things dont work out, and you dont want to lose that friendship you two have I'm sure she'll understand
Hope i helped!
2007-07-13 11:11:01 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-01 13:28:58 · answer #4 · answered by ansell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow and allow to set the pace. As she becomes more physical you also match your behavior levels to hers. For example now that she has taken you hand. You should take hers the next time you are together. Tell her you really like her and enjoy holding her hand. As you both mature there is always a risk that one or both of you will want to go your own ways and that is normal. Try to always keep in touch with each other no matter what.
2007-07-13 10:55:52 · answer #5 · answered by Toosense3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ddude she is not a puppy if you have a question ask her. It may just be that she has so much confidence and faith in your relaionship that she feels comfortable with that and nothing else or she could be testing the water to see if you are willing.
2007-07-13 10:53:18 · answer #6 · answered by quickgun 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea she deffinatley likes you. You should talk to her about that and if you do get into a relationship make sure she knows that if this doesnt work out you still would want to b friends like before.
2007-07-13 10:54:41 · answer #7 · answered by joey c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, Im going to say this... if your not tired or being friends then don't date her bottom line. If your a teenager ya will not last statistics show it. Again if your not tired of being her friend dont date her.
2007-07-13 10:54:19 · answer #8 · answered by huh? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
find out if you feel the same way about her 5 years from now and then make your move
2007-07-13 10:57:12 · answer #9 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well wait to ask her out (if you like her) til' when you know she likes you! But right now it looks like she likes you.I say go for it. Just if you break up still talk to her if you break up.I is not weird.
2007-07-13 10:54:49 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋