We're both over 25.
We met a few years ago online and have met in person.
We've kept in contact but will go months at a time without speaking. Well, after a year of no contact, he called me like every night last week. He missed one night of calling and then last night, he called and told me out of the blue that he wants to marry me in two years.
I was shocked and would have married him when we first met. I didn't think he felt that way about me. He's been hinting over the years about marriage in general, but last week he was talking more about it and even said he's ready to settle down. I didn't think much of it and then last night he just came out and said it.
I don't know what my question is... I suppose is it normal for a guy to suddenly realize he wants to spend the rest of his life with a girl?
He has his own place, his own business, no kids, and never been married. He also lives 2 time zones away!
2007-07-13 10:25:42 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We *HAVE* met in person.
We met when I lived in his home state.
He has his own business and if we do get married, I'd move back to his homestate. I wouldn't expect him to give up his place and business to start over here.
"Suddenly" as in I didn't really see this coming. He's hinted at marriage in general the whole time I've known him.
When we first met I would have married, I guess I'm just getting over the shock of him saying he wants to marry me. I haven't told him yes or no.
2007-07-13 11:03:04 · update #1
He got a dose of maturity and realized that his life isn't complete without you.
2007-07-13 10:28:05 · answer #1 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, so now you gotta ask yourself a lot of questions. I mean, how are you to date over the next 2 years? Is he wanting you to not see anyone else over this time? Can you trust him? Would you move there or would he move here? I mean, it's really sweet that he said all that and if he wants to marry you in 2 years, make him earn it! If he can move to where you are, get a job, a place and be an awesome boyfriend over the next 2 years, that would be much better than remaining time zones away from each other!
2007-07-13 10:30:12 · answer #2 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't sound right. If you don't hear from him for months at a time, what will happen when/ if you do get married? Maybe he's attracted to the fact that he doesn't have to answer to you and this guy does sound married to me. What suddenly made him realize after a year he needs you? What has he or who has he been doing all this time?
2007-07-13 10:37:47 · answer #3 · answered by moeschk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds fishy to me - personally, I would never wait around for a man.......He's literally telling you to not be with anyone because in 2 years, you'll be his wife.... 2 time zones away, what type of a relationship is that? Id move on if I were you. If he really loved you - he'd send for you & start planning the wedding asap... After all, If your really the one he wants to marry, why is he wanting to wait?!
2007-07-13 10:30:17 · answer #4 · answered by jessie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just never know.
This man could be into something or he is really a hard working man who has seen many things and knows what is value with quality.
He could be a crook into something that you have, However, he could be a very careful guy and afraid to make mistake in relationship.
You got to find out before say: "YES Darling"
2007-07-13 10:33:53 · answer #5 · answered by jean l 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't as us, ask HIM.
It is exceptionally odd for things to happen this way, and he MUST know that. So ask him to explain in detail how he came to this conclusion.
Also - you have to ask yourself what is in it for him and what his possible motivations are.
It SEEMS very sketchy - I'm sorry to say.
Get all the information FIRST, and don't do anything until you are COMPLETELY comfortable with the situation.
Good luck
2007-07-13 10:29:32 · answer #6 · answered by Karla 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You guys might wanna try actually being around eachother before talking about marriage.
2007-07-13 10:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by YUMMY1 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
2 years away from now isn't very sudden.
"Let's go to Vegas tomorrw and get hitched" is sudden.
Two years from now is a lifetime.
2007-07-13 10:30:00 · answer #8 · answered by Spiral Wizard 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a little strange. but then again, meeting online people is really f'ing strange too.
2007-07-13 10:28:24 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
umm hjust meet the guy first then think about marring him
2007-07-13 10:29:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋