My bf and i have 3 kids together ages 8 ,4,and 2.We met senior year of highschool dated went through all kinds of drama including pregnancy miscarriage broke up twice before ending for good . A year later while he had a gf and i was depressed/lonley we had a fling the result of which is our eldest son.For a year we tried to make it work and get it all together but failed.Few months before my 25 birthday we met up again for a chat because i had just moved back to our home state.He wanted to be more involved with our son's life and we started talking more became friends.We started dating again casually and have been together 4.5 yrs straight ever since getting married.I still wonder what if i had not had that fling with him or not gotten pregnant would we still have gotten together?I feel so much guilt sometimes what if the girl he was dating during our fling was better for him than i am they were friends for years before they dated?Am i crazy?
2007-07-13 10:24:42 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was not trying to get pregnant with my first child but did not exactly do much to prevent it and was not in a great state of mind.My Best friend thinks i need to let this go?
2007-07-13 10:27:25 · update #1
I am going to be 29 yrs old and he is 28 yrs old.I have always tried my best to be a good person but feel guilt over what happened
2007-07-13 10:30:04 · update #2
life is full of woulda coulda shouldas. life is too short. just do what makes you happy
2007-07-13 10:29:54 · answer #1 · answered by eb 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey, there are far worse things in the world to be worried about. Don't look a gift horse in the mouth. Be thankful he wants you and leave it at that. What's done is done. No use crying over spilled milk! He's with YOU. That ought to tell you something. Now move on and BE HAPPY. Give yourself permission.
2007-07-13 10:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to stop second guessing yourself and the relationship. Things happen for a reason. I really believe that. Maybe you guys needed to go through all of the hardships to get where you are today. Are you happy? Is he happy? Do you still laugh together? If so then enjoy it and consider yourself lucky!
2007-07-13 10:45:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think he has any regrets over this as he married you and you dated inbetween.Let it go if he really wanted the other girl he would be with her
2007-07-13 10:34:34 · answer #4 · answered by mmedina96 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you having 2nd thoughts about HIM.........or yourself?
Are you in your 30's???
2007-07-13 10:28:10 · answer #5 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋