Suppose you were married and after a some odd years, you find out that she's been seeing a girl behind your back but NO men. She tells you she loves you deeply and is sincere and has been faithful with the same gender, but she needs the love of a woman in addition to you the husband and offers you to get into a 3-some with her indefinitely. Her partner agrees and thinks it would be a terrific idea. Would you divorce her for cheating or would you forgive her and join the fun? Be as honest as you can. Thanks
2007-07-13 09:27:07 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she didn't straighten up, I'd leave her. My 'vision' for a family didn't include this sort of 'stuff' ... or the initial 'secrecy' that you described.
2007-07-13 09:32:18 · answer #1 · answered by Sultan 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Even though that is just about every guy's fantasy, in reality that type of relationship rarely works out. Besides cheating is cheating. I will admit that I would be more apt to forgive her if she promised to stop seeing the other woman as opposed to forgiving her for seeing another man. I also believe that we would need to seek some professional help to find out what went wrong to drive her to cheat.
2007-07-13 19:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by tja1110 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would consider it cheating whether it's male or female, but I guess it's up to you how you feel about that. Another option could be to forgive her & make her earn your trust//not see this other lover, but since you stated she "needs the love of a woman in addition to the husband", I doubt this would work. Personally, I would leave, but I am a woman & I would tend to be jealous! That's just me! Good luck whatever you decide!
2007-07-13 16:39:59 · answer #3 · answered by ♥bigmamma♥ 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If the man has any respect for himself he will file for divorce. Cheating is cheating gender is irrelevant and as you stated "she needs the love of a woman". So it is not purely physical, but also involves love. Would a woman not feel insulted if her husband was in love with another man?
2007-07-13 16:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but the way i was raised there is NO forgiveness for infidelity!! None, reagardless if your throwing in the 3 some thing. I'd dump the **** forever
2007-07-13 18:01:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I was a man I would just for fun .
Most men dont even get the opportunity
so while you have it and your wife doesnt care go for it
PS this coming from a girl:
She probably wants you to join basically because sex sucks without a dic
truth be told
2007-07-13 16:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by twentyalready?! 4 · 1⤊ 4⤋
cheating is still cheating no matter the gender
2007-07-17 07:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by cheri h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of whether is actually worked out or not, I'd atleast give it a try.
2007-07-13 16:43:01 · answer #8 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is this a real question? As long as no other dude's co cks have been near my lady, I would thank my lucky stars and get down with the 3-sum! What the hell are you complaining about?
2007-07-13 16:34:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
I like variety, so if she is having fun then so be it. Join in and have some fun yourself.
2007-07-13 17:06:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋