I recently found out he has been looking at internet porn. I asked him about this and he said he would rather do it than be with me because sex has become a hassel. What should I do?
2007-07-13 09:22:52 · 19 answers · asked by momof2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Tell him if it a hassle, then there will be no more and you are moving out.
2007-07-13 09:27:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a good sign that the Rooster is visiting another Chicken Coop. It may be that the Hassle he's talking about is the fact that he can't perform "get erect" because he's not with the other chicken. It may also mean and, according to his age, he may be having problems in that area. Prostate problems are not only limited to older men.
You need to talk. Long and hard. If sex is still a hassle for him and he refuses to talk about it, well, life is too short to have someone ruin yours.
Good Luck
2007-07-13 16:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by pj m 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok. Let me get this straight - he would rather pleasure himself than make love to you?! Find out what he means by what he said. If he has been looking at too much porn it has fogged his judgement of the real world! I have nothing against porn, but some people go way too far. Good luck.
2007-07-13 16:39:45 · answer #3 · answered by raininonsunday 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Given that you think of yourself as a mom of 2 rather than a wife for one I can see how you may have become a little difficult to approach.
No guy wants to work at sex with his wife. If you have saddled him with a bunch of negotiating and taking rather than giving and pleasing him once in a while I understand his point of view.
It sounds like you need to figure out how to have some sex with husband with no strings attached.
2007-07-13 16:34:09 · answer #4 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a hassle and stop being shady on the goods! He looks at porn because they have NO restrictions and that's why we fantasize these crazy things. Sorry, but it's the truth! Be willing to explore things with him. You got married right, well, don't let this lead to divorce because it will. Bring the freak out and destroy the computer!
2007-07-13 16:28:02 · answer #5 · answered by glennfiddich 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yikes! I would get to the bottom of this. Find out what exactly it is that he's classifying as a hassle. Is it because he feels sex is always on your terms? Does he feel he has to ask to often and gets rejected?
Trust me I can completely understand and relate this is why I ask these questions.
If he's able to communicate his frustration you guys can hopefully work out a situation where intimacy isn't a "hassle"
2007-07-13 16:31:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become the little s l u t you once were before you stopped being a exciting lover. The ball is in your court now. Maybe you can pull your head out of your a s s long enough to see things for what they really are.
2007-07-13 16:27:25 · answer #7 · answered by aubreytaegan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOu might want to get a little more info out of him then that/
You alsw may want to think about marriage counseling. It should never be a hassel.
2007-07-13 16:26:25 · answer #8 · answered by Lindsay G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him to define the word hassel, what does he mean by that and then you both work through correcting it and making it hassel free.
2007-07-13 16:29:55 · answer #9 · answered by jimmy.parker06 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOOph....Nope, a hassle, sex a hassle? Hehehehe, I have never heard a guy say that. I'd want a little more info from him.
I don't get that...if he really wanted to all he'd have to do is just lie there.
2007-07-13 16:38:11 · answer #10 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk about why he thinks it's a hassle. Talk about your feelings. Talk about his.
Go to a counselor & get individual and couples counseling.
Try some new and fun stuff in the bedroom.
2007-07-13 16:37:04 · answer #11 · answered by StacieG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋