2007-07-13 09:10:34 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unless you want to put up with a cheating wife. She will do it again, they all do. Next time she might give you something you can't get rid of. Condom aren't 100%
2007-07-13 09:13:52 · answer #1 · answered by shannon 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mergler has the right idea.
Take a good long look at yourself. People cheat on one another for a reason. Are you in love with her? Do you tell her you love her? Do you hold her and make her feel wanted?
Whoever said absence makes the heart grow fonder didn't know squat about relationships. Are you home when you're supposed to be? Do you spend Quality time as well as Quantity time with her?
There are two sides to every coin. It's easy to point fingers at someone and call them names. But the truth is, we are at times our own worst enemies.
If you've done everything you could possibly do to show your spouse you love him/her and the cheating starts, it's time to get some help or call it quits. TRUST is a big big part of the marriage process.
I wish you well
2007-07-13 09:30:24 · answer #2 · answered by pj m 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look at it from HER shoes.
Why did she cheat in the first place? I think that sometimes it is easier for people to look for an 'add on' (like the other man/woman).....or a temp fix/mood lifter than for them to really get rid of the real problems and make themselfs truely happy. Sometimes it is too difficult to just leave the person you're with, so you look for what you need somewhere else and hope things get better at home.........it never works out that way, but I REALLY REALLY do not think that people cheat because they are evil people, I don't think that people set out to hurt the ones that they are married to. I think that people cheat because they are in pain, or their relationship is missing something (which is where you come in......).
Sorry for rambling.
2007-07-15 15:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by klb620 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know, what really gives men the right to leave if their wife cheats on them, and if it was the other way around, the wives would be forgiving? my husband once said if i ever cheat he'd leave me, but when he had cheated i did not leave whats the coincidence? its not that i didnt want too, but for women, sometimes its just hard to leave like that. you and your wife should have a talk and if she doesnt want in anymore then leave.
2007-07-13 10:42:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce is a hard thing. Do you still love her? If you do, maybe you can work it out. It won't be easy for either of you, but love and forgiveness conquers all. Talk about it, and stay calm. Don't get mad. Find out exactly what is going on and why. Maybe there is some underlying cause that could be worked out.
If you don't love her, you should consider a divorce. Staying with her wouldn't be fair to either of you. But divorce is not pretty or easy so consider carefully.
2007-07-13 09:15:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Regardless of any possible reasons why she would decide to cheat on you, there is no excuse ever if you are married. You need to leave and find someone who will respect you, since if you decide to stay, she will not respect you since she knows she could now get away with anything and you'll just kiss her butt to keep her.
2007-07-13 09:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by trayl65 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did. It wasn't easy, it hurt and took a long time to work it out in my own head and heart. I couldn't stand the idea of spending my life with someone I no longer trusted.
2007-07-13 09:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, From the moment she decided to cheat, the relationship was over anyways. so why wait around? Time to move on , She would do the same to you........... Oh wait she already did
2007-07-13 09:16:58 · answer #8 · answered by ~NIKKI~ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i've read questions from girls that ask if they should leave their men but lots of answers backfired against her, when a dude gets cheated on its kick that hoe to the curb. check me out when i psot a similar questions and wait for the answers.
my advice is go with your feelings and put u first. from now on dont put anything in the relationship i.e. time, feelings money, if your not willing to lose it!
2007-07-13 09:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by rd03 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, you should, because it isnt going to stop, i really dont believe that, my fiance unfortunalty went through it for about four years or more almost their whole marraige, she left him at home with the kids while she "went to work" and what not and he tried to even hold it togeather for the kids, and believe her when it when she said it was gunna change,,,,and she is still doing it to all the men that she has dated since...
2007-07-13 09:15:41 · answer #10 · answered by Just Wondering 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋