Was i the wrong one???

Question

Am i wrong for being upset with my husband for getting drunk yesturday and not going to pick our 5 month old from daycare, granted that i could still pick him up when i got off of work because my husband gets off before me, but his routine is to pick the baby up when he gets off. He says he had no intention of drinking he was only going to play a few games of madden then go get the baby but his friends gave him a cup and he figured he would only have one and one turned into 2 and so. But my argument was that he shouldnt have drank anything knowing that he had to pick up our son...am i wrong for telling him that, because he seems to think that everyone makes mistakes, but i dnt think that was a mistake he should have made...what do u think???

Answer 1

I think if he normally does it & he slacked just this once & asked you to do it then no big deal. At least he didn't put the baby in the car with him.

Answer 2

I would say he was in the wrong because he knew he had to pick up the baby. When his friends asked him if he wanted a drink he should have said no, I have to go pick up ___ from the daycare. However, if he usually picks up the baby every day and he called you in advance to tell you that he was drinking and asked you to pick up the baby, well then it shouldn't have been that big of a deal. I don't think he made a mistake. I think he did what he wanted to do, and because he knew you got off in enough time to pick up the baby he used that as his excuse. I mean, it all depends on the situation.

Answer 3

It was a mistake that ended without incident. Forgive him and make sure he knows he absolutely cannot drink when he is to pick up the baby. But he is human, and he also needs time to spend with his friends. Be glad that nothing bad happened and he now knows exactly how you feel. Marriage is all about give and take. He should have just called you to tell you he was stopping with the boys and you would need to pick up the baby. Don't make a mountain out of a mole hill when it's not necessary.

Answer 4

I think he should have at least called you to let you know before hand that he wasn't going to make it to get the baby. That is a responsibility that cannot be neglected over anything. Maybe next time he plans a day out with the boys you just offer to pick up the baby to avoid these little arguments that are meaningless. But he should have made prior arrangements and yeah mistakes happen but its not like it was a mistake and he wasn't fully thinking about. He wasn't forced either.

Answer 5

in truth even though routines are necessary, you sometimes need a break from them. I do say he was wrong for not at least giving you a heads up in a good advanced notice but for the most part its not that big of a deal considering at least he didn't risk your child's life by picking him up anyway. At least he was responsible in that fact. I would say if I was you instead of risking this happen again and you getting into a fight. You just tell him to let you know way ahead of time that he is going to hang out with the guys tonight and have you pick up your child instead.This way its planned and wont get in the way of anything. After all you guys are married with a kid but both of you are still people separate from this marriage and do need friends and time to do things with them. Its healthy and just helps to keep a good balance in ones life.

Answer 6

He is right that everyone does make mistakes but now that he has a child everything is different. He is responsible for him and if he knew he was getting him he should have either called you and told you he was hanging with the guys or not drank. I would drop the subject though as he probably understands he did wrong since he admitted it was a mistake. You are not wrong in getting upset.

Answer 7

No, you weren't wrong! Endangering the life of your child by even having 1 drink, is grounds for divorce and sole custody in my book. It only takes one drink to be legally drunk and be charged with vehicular homicide should you be in an accident and someone is killed. Is he really willing to live with that fore the rest of his life?
I can hardly wait to pick up my daughter at the end of the day, so I don't understand anyone who wouldn't rush to pick up their child and spend as much time with them as possible before bed time. She's my everything, if I ever killed her because I was being irresponsible and selfish, I'd die from the grief.

Answer 8

Your not wrong at all . . When it comes to raising children there is no room for mistakes. He chose not to make your son a priority . . that was a very selfish decision on his part. At least he was smart enough not to drive drunk and pick up your son

Answer 9

No - you are not wrong for telling him that. But you could be nice and let him have a break every now and then. Especially if he is ALWAYS the one picking the baby up.
I am ALWAYS the one picking up our 3 kids. It is nice when hubby picks them up once in a blue moon for me, when he can.

Answer 10

Yeah, he should have known better. No matter how much you drink, its still bad to drive, especially with his son like that. No girl, you werent wrong at all. He could have called you before that and asked you to pick him up. His Bad!!

Answer 11

I totally agree with you. This is your childs safety we are talking about. Not that I would think you should leave him or anything of that sort. But my goodness, he could have called you before he had one and asked you if you could pick up your child so he could do it...that would have been considerate at least.