recently found out that my younger sister was sexually abused by a family member between ages 3-10. She told me. I was devastated she said she had forgiven the person and wants me to do the same. I comforted her and of course told her I still love her & that it was not her fault.
She has been living with me for five years. Abuse took place prior to her living with me. Two days ago i was told that my childs father also sexually molested her twice within a three years time span. My childs father and i are not 2gether any more. Broke up 3 years ago.
I am hurting so much right now. Scared that he has probably molested our daughter. don't know where to start or what to do. why didn't my sis tell me what was going on?
do u think i am a bad sis? I have played a mother in her life our mother lives miles away from us. help me hurting badly
2007-07-13 08:09:26 · 7 answers · asked by sisterly 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I'm sorry for your situation. I wouldn't jump to any conclusions about your own daughter. I hate to sound skeptical, but you should probably make sure there is validity behind your sister's accusations before taking any actions. If she has lived with you for five years and only recently revealed this information, I would be somewhat skeptical about why she picked now to do so. Depending on her age and present circumstances in the household she could be making such statements to get attention. I am not at all minimizing the situation or unsympatheic to your plight. This is serious and can set a family in turmoil as you well know.
The best course of action would be to get her into therapy. Contact the department of mental health in your area. They operate on a sliding scale. They will get down to the bottom of this and help her, you and your family. Until therapy has progressed, I wouldn't try to investigate about your daughter. Just continue to love them both.
I wish you all the best.
2007-07-13 09:20:13 · answer #1 · answered by amazingly intelligent 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hie Sister. Well to me I feel bad to what had happen. First thing first, bring to a doctor and from there let a doctor do a check-up for the whole body and when they have done this then it is better for you to get the result and when the result is out and it shows positive then, from there it is better for you to go to the police station and lodge a report and although you have broke with him for 3 years then there should be the last resident address which you can remember and then when you have lodge it let the police to catch him and from there it is better for you to go to the court and let the them give him a good judgment, when it is over then it is good that try to keep them with your custody so nothing could happen, and when this has happen he will surely regret on his mistake and it will be a lesson for him too. So it is better for you tyo take action now by rather of you taking it later. Try this and hope it might help you...........................
ALL THE BEST........................
2007-07-13 08:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats some messed up ****. It must be really hard thinking of what to do about this. I say you should tell the police whats been going on. Things may become public for a while, but anyone who does stuff like that should pay for what they have done. By doing so you could be saving somone else from being hurt.
2007-07-13 08:21:06 · answer #3 · answered by tommy b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am really sorry that you are going through this....you need to get both yourself and your sister in family counseling or just counseling in general to help you move past this emotionally.
I dont think that you can report sexual abuse after a certain amount of time, but I would definitely check with your local authorities to see what could be done.
2007-07-13 08:13:25 · answer #4 · answered by Marie Catherine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YWCA Shelter for abused and battered women. Good place to start. They have counselors on staff for just such things.
Your pastor or priest if you go to church.
One thing you need to do is have those slim locked up and the key thrown away. If not they are going to do it over again to some over real young girl like your sister was.
And forget about misplaced loyalties in this case. fry em.
2007-07-13 08:17:42 · answer #5 · answered by JUAN FRAN$$$ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write out a full report with as much detail as you know. take the report to your local police department with your sister then follow police instructions.this man has probably molested several children
2007-07-13 08:23:36 · answer #6 · answered by john h 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know Jesus Christ will Help you through anything
2007-07-13 08:16:36 · answer #7 · answered by gloria 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋