Do you have to work with someone who makes your blood boil?

Question

I have had to work with someone for a couple of years now, and since she arrived she has taken over almost all of the jobs that I used to do. She has stayed behind a number of times and complained that I made her feel akward about doing certain jobs and I was then told ," to just let her do these things from now on "!! . I have been there a good few years before she arrived and now I feel like a spare part. She has even muscled in one the one and only job I had left to myself. If she crawls any further up the boss's backside there is a chance she will get stuck!!!
What would you say would be the best way to deal with someone like her, I am not a violent person, but sometimes I just want to knock her out!!!

Answer 1

Yes unfortunately I used to like going to work the banter was good and everyone got along with each other. Then she arrived and ever since the office has become a hotbed of gossip and back biteing. She prefaces everything she says with not that I think Im better than anyone else but or not that i think i work harder but. I have to bit my lip not to cut her to pieces verbally. she left her last post because she had problems with someone there, she said all they did was gossip and backbite, sound familiar? This person watches everyone and everything and disappears in to see the boss periodically. She is very vindictive so I dont feel that drawing her attention to myself would be wise. Her husband also works here so I think this makes her feel that she can do what she wants. She has already taken someone to tribunal at her last post for unfair treatment. I would advise you to be very careful about what you say and do around this person because it sounds like she would love for you to react and if you do it will be you who ends in trouble with the boss. If you get any really good replys on how to spike her guns I will be following this advice myself good luck

Answer 2

I guess it depends on where you work and what your boss is like. Have you tried talking to the boss and explaining how you feel about this person? Or even perhaps talking to her directly - no knocking her out though - I am fairly confident that will get you sacked. She could just be over eager, trying that little bit hard to move up, get on or just fit in. Everyone hates being the 'new girl' and she may just be a bit over zealous in trying to make a go of her job.
Perhaps a bit more detail - the type of company the type of job would help in answering this more fully? (obviously stay safe and dont give out all the details - but fill in a few blanks re the type of work)

Answer 3

I feel your pain. I too have a butt-in person who I have to work with. She undermines me to our other co-workers constantly. It doesn't help that she left the job I currently have - and then came back to do something else.... while I was brought into this job to take it over in addition to the one I originally was doing. It all came to the point where I was pulling my hair out every time I saw her coming down the hall to my office - I wanted to sock her in the kisser before she opened her mouth.

Take the high road. If it's YOUR job... tell her (politely) to butt out - that you will be happy to ask for her help if you need it, but you are doing just fine right now. Otherwise, go to your boss and say something like "Since she is doing these jobs with your blessing, what would you like me to attend to instead?" Put the ball in your boss's court on it.

Good luck - I feel your pain. (Lately she's been butting out, but I'm sure that will change with the next shift in the wind).

Answer 4

Sorry there is no simple solution to your question. I had to move in fact she made sure i was forced out by telling lies. The bosses were scared of her for some unknown reasons. A few years later after an internal audit she was found incompetent and they still didn't deal with her. Eventually she left.

Answer 5

I would make an appt.with the head honcho and tell him everything you wrote in your question. I was once in the same situation, and I quit. But I should not have had to quit (I was ready to move on anyway) and you should not have to quit for sure. Especially if this is your "career " job. I really don't think you'll get any satisfaction by talking to her. You definitely have to go way over her (and your) head. Good luck, girlfriend!! :) If you still don't get satisfaction, is quitting an option? This daily stress can't be good for your mind, body, and soul. -L

Answer 6

This sounds awful..Can't you talk to your boss and tell them how this other person is making you feel. The other option is not to allow it; tell her to butt out. She is undermining you and that can make you feel bad about yourself. I guess the other option is to look for another job. This has happened to me once or twice and I've found a better job, where I could be happy. Good luck.

Answer 7

I do, I nearly killed her a few days ago when she said I did something wrong but she was in the wrong. It's like she's constantly trying to show me up, even though I am better at my job than she is.
I just ignore her now or hum loudly every time she speaks to me.

Answer 8

Ask your superior for a copy of your job description. Tell him how this girl's actions have made you feel. Assure him you're more than willing and capable of doing your job. That girl will get hers some day-trust me.

Answer 9

there's probably no easy solution, the only thing i could suggest would be to speak to your boss, speak your mind and tell him/her that your not happy with things, but also it depend's on how far your willing to go with this, are you prepared to lose your job over this?
this person you have described could well be manipulative, so be careful.

Answer 10

Did do but she left work today to go and make others miserable.