Would you date a guy who is closed minded...?

Question

Would any girls date a man who is closed-minded in the fact that he doesn't believe in abortion, nor evolution, nor that being gay is right?

Has anyone married someone who believes opposite of them (in areas such as those listed above)? If so, how did the marriage turn out? More specifically, did anyone marry someone who believed that abortion or being gay was ok? If so, how did that turn out?

If children were involved, please let me know how they turned out....were they rebelious, did they have a "preferred" parent (if so, which one)....etc.

Answer 1

if you are that closed minded, then maybe you should look for someone who has the same values. You can date, and then maybe you can learn about all of the things you are against together

Answer 2

You gotta keep in mind that people views can change during the marriage. BUT even if they don't change, as long as these people are mature adults the children should not be negatively affected at all, no matter how opposite the parent's beliefs are.

I don't think I would consider you close-minded by the way - you just have morals.

You know I must add that if you believe a certain way about things as serious as abortion and being gay then you should try to find someone who believes in those same things because how about if she wants to have an abortion, to kill your baby that's growing inside of her.

Answer 3

There are things that my boyfriend(going on 4 years now) and I don't agree on and that's a part of a relationship BUT we agree more than we disagree. We are both like-minded. I made sure to find someone who thought as I on the topics that mattered the most to me. That's very important to me.

BUT I do know a couple in which one is a democrat and the other is a republican and they have been together for 18 years. I asked them how they did it and they said that they keep the "sensitive subjects" out of their relationship. There is A LOT of respect in their relationship. They agree to disagree. They understand that the other may not feel as they do and that's okay to them because they love each other too much to let something come between them. When they had children they looked out for their best interest and did what ever made their child happy. It's obvious that if you were in a relationship like theirs that there would be a lot of sacrifices and compromises made. It just depends on how much you love that person and how important it is to you to have someone who thinks like you do.

Answer 4

Closed-mindedness is an indicator of massive insecurity. Those who are closed-minded are so because being open to anything new might disturb the incredibly fragile foundation upon which they apparently stand. Closed-mindedness also, via this insecurity, encourages massive intolerance and hate.

Such a person would make a terrible father, that's for sure.

Answer 5

Yeah, I did...My X was like that....and in the beginning those things really didn't affect me. But closed minded people can be narcissistic and boy was he! Eventually it just got in the way. And the more I wanted to progress in life the more resistance I got from him. I realized that these were not convictions for him, just ways of hating others and passing judgments. Which he was really good at doing and never moving forward in life. Just nasty really. Thank god I never had children with that man, by god's good graces, I never got pg. I wouldn't of wanted to raise my child in such a hateful home.

Answer 6

His philosophies don't have to match yours, and you can agree to disagree. As long as he doesn't try and change your mind to match his and respects your opinion, and you do the same, I don't see a problem.

You aren't go to agree on everything. Even couples whose values match will still disagree on some things. The point is to hear each other out and respect each others' views.

Look at Mary Matalin (GOP political consultant) and James Carville (Democrat political consultant). They met on a very dirty and messy campaign trail; their politics are still diametrically opposed to each other's, and they've been married over a decade. That's because they know how to converse and disagree without giving or taking offense.

If he refuses to even consider other opinions and belittles you for yours, then be assured that he won't change and you should get used to that. Otherwise, find someone else.

Answer 7

I married a guy who don't believe in abortion or evolution or being gay is right i'm the same way all that is wrong!

Answer 8

I think they could if they loved each other. They would have to tolerate the other. On now abortion I have a question. What about girls that have been raped and got pregnant that way? Now for an oops I don't go for that or anything along those lines. That is one place I would consider making exceptions and allowing abortion but not for anything else. (that i can think of) Post a detail for this I'd like to know what you think on that. (i know im off subject but your question got me thinking)

Answer 9

Okay i dont believe that having your own opinions on abortion and evolution and all that other stuff is being close minded. i would think of that as knowing who you are and what you believe in. I think of close minded as not wanting to try new things and get out there and live life. if you dont want to do any of that then yea i wouldent date you . however your ideas on life would'nt matter to me as long as you were up to living life all other things and your beliefs are just that .....your beliefs.

Answer 10

I absolutely would never marry a man with those views. My world is full of being free and enjoying love.. smiling and letting people live their own lives.

I make my own decisions.. I think its wrong that people want to make decisions for other people. If you're not gay why do you care that others are?