The last two days have been awful for me. It just seems like everything that can go wrong has. I don't get upset to often but this morning I had all I could take and finally blew up at my husband. I told him my life was so much easier before we got married. I didn't mean what I said at all, it was just a combination of things and I needed to vent. Well to make a long story short, I have appologized to him several times, but I still feel awful, does anyone have any suggestions on something I can do to show him that I am truly sorry and didn't mean what I said?
2007-07-13 07:54:31 · 15 answers · asked by Angela F 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He keeps saying that he understands and that there is nothing that I need to appologize for, but like I said I feel horrible
2007-07-13 07:55:23 · update #1
I know how you feel. When you do something that bad, no matter how many times you say "I'm sorry" and he says it's ok, you still feel guilty? That's ok and normal. The only other thing to do is move on! If you do something extravagant it will cross the line into "sucking up". If you are truly sorry, then you won't do it again. Time will tell. I would ask him to forgive you. This is different than saying "I'm sorry". Forgiveness is the healing it takes for both parties involved to move on. Hope I helped!
2007-07-13 08:04:29 · answer #1 · answered by boogers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody has done this at one point or another.. they just words honey or you need to do is try to think before you blow off steam.. because the truth is that those words really do hurt.. just promise him that you won't say things like that again and make him a special dinner and buy him flowers, do that and tell him I've done this because i really do want to tell you that i am really sorry honey and I mean this.. if he already told you he forgiven you, he should accept this and let by gones be by gones.. good luck don't be so hard on your self.
2007-07-13 15:06:49 · answer #2 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Plan a romantic weekend with just the 2 of you, and make a list to show him a dozen ways during the weekend of things you do together (intimate and otherwise) that you are happy that he is in your life for.
It will be a good getaway for both of you and it should mean a lot to him that you took the time to plan this out and spend the weekend with just you and him.
2007-07-13 15:09:05 · answer #3 · answered by Zaferus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're attempting to apologize because YOU feel horrible and because you want to dispel that feeling. You, in short are not apologizing because of the damage you caused HIM; you're apologizing because of the pain YOUR actions caused YOU.
Doesn't that seem more than a tad bit selfish to you?
2007-07-13 15:03:56 · answer #4 · answered by Mike 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can say that will take back that open display of disrespect. Keep doing that and you will be back on here asking questions about divorce.
2007-07-13 15:09:50 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You said you was sorry and that's all you can do! It sounds like he's forgiven you. You will feel bad for saying that everyone says stuff they don't mean when they fight!
2007-07-13 15:27:46 · answer #6 · answered by little lou lou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give it a break. You said sorry, Have you ever thought maybe he feels it was easier also?
2007-07-13 14:59:23 · answer #7 · answered by New Nana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your guilt. He already said he was fine with it. let it go and in the future put your brain in gear before you operate your mouth. It'll save both he and you aggravation in the longrun.
2007-07-13 14:59:45 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say, take him out. Bring him out to his favorite resturant, and give him a card telling him how much he means to you and how much you love and appreciate him.
2007-07-13 15:00:23 · answer #9 · answered by chaoss13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is no use groveling, you have already apologized.
i'm sure your husband realizes that you are human, and sometimes we just go over the edge!
life will go on, and eventually you will forgive YOURSELF... beause apparently, you haven't yet.... just remember your husband does forgive you...
take care!
2007-07-13 14:58:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋