I am astounded by the reaction of my husband since i have left him and am going to divorce him for abusive behavior. He is writing to me poems...recipes...asking how i am .....giving me little quips about his day......I think he is on the ''hunt'' as i have escaped from his grasp and he is trying to lure me into his trap to ''cook'' me in the end. Am i correct? It is the first time he has ever been so ''romantic'' and caring since we first met. I fell for his ''lines'' then and suffered, so i am not making the same mistake again. I am an older and wiser woman now and not that young silly naive girl he captured before..what do you think?
2007-07-13 07:45:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree that he is trying whatever "trick" he can come up with to try to lure you back. I'm glad you recognoze that, and aren't falling for it.
2007-07-13 07:49:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't you find it strange that the nice behavior started only when you mentioned divorce? Shouldn't he have been doing it all along? It is a game. My first husband was like this. I stayed and it went back to the same in about a month. I got out of it six years later. Listen to your gut. It's usually right.
Good luck.
2007-07-13 08:03:59 · answer #2 · answered by lesmodee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, sounds like he is trying once again to win you back, in a different way this time. Bottom line is if you 2 haven't resloved ALL the issues that drove you to the point of divorce, then it's a no go ... don't fall for it.
2007-07-13 07:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by danny23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you!!! Yes, you are correct. Isn't it amazing how an abuser can be such a good con artist? And that's the face that he shows to the world too. He's a pro. Now you can see how easy it was to fall into that trap. I hope he keeps up that fakeness, so that you can see what a lying, no good, slimy, scumy, con artist he was. Congradulations on your new life.
2007-07-13 09:38:50 · answer #4 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's trying to use the old tactics. Failing miserably at it too I see. My advice is don't respond to any poems, messages, letters, etc. Time to start a new life and without him being anywhere in the picture...or on the peripheral of it either.
2007-07-13 08:02:52 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's appropriate. supply up asking him...particularly below the previous circumstances. He might decide for greater time than you think of, and your prodding isn't endearing you to him in this regard. actual forgiveness takes time, not in basic terms some i'm sorry's right here and there...yet TIME. you opt for instantaneous effects, needless to say, love would not artwork that way - and it takes time to rebuilt and a great form of acts of kindness and attention. Giving delivery to a daughter of the two one in all you (not in basic terms his expensive) should not be the cataylst for him to alter, particularly time and random acts of goodness and kindness and actual love, do. I suspec he loves you, yet is amazingly, very wounded and having a problematical time, even however you have remarried, getting over your cheating in the 1st place. in case you like this guy, and that i DO recommend, quite love him this time around, cut back him greater slack...time and prefer i mentioned, acts of affection and kindness. His believe is going to take time to rebuild, perchance yet another year or greater frankly. in actual fact, Grace
2016-09-29 22:25:29 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's grasping at straws & trying anything to get you back.
My ex-husband gave me roses (for the first time) after I kicked him out. I didn't fall for it, either. In fact, I was disgusted.
Just roll your eyes and tell him to go away. Too little, too late, buddy. Buh-bye.
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2007-07-13 08:18:02 · answer #7 · answered by ♥≈Safi≈♥ ☼of the Atheati☼ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ya!most abusers are like that,they are gonna try to sweep you off your feet,and if you go back it will get worse,and he'll keep saying he's sorry,im so happy you got out,just remember to watch your back,and be careful at all times,you never know when he could be following you,i had to leave my home town,because i had to get away and hide.....wish you all the luck.
2007-07-13 07:58:29 · answer #8 · answered by marie e 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he wants u back, and will stop at nothing to be in control again. right now u are the one who is in control, just try to keep it that way. we all do grow up and see things the way they really are.
2007-07-13 08:09:33 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your right dont ever go back to this man'you will only end up sorry for the second time'im telling you'be smart keep going''
2007-07-13 08:13:56 · answer #10 · answered by donna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋