At the risk of being extremely unpopular..... to all the unmarried or recently wed people, this is not a question for you. It's meant for people who have been married for > 5 years. Why? Cos they've adequately experienced monogamy. FYI, I'm not looking for a reason/excuse to cyber. I'm just curious what other people think.
This question could also be called "adding spice in the bedroom of a marriage other than the usually 'date night' or 'romance your wife' scenarios."
2007-07-13 07:20:11 · 14 answers · asked by RM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
not while married. I met my husband that way though - 10 years ago...
2007-07-13 07:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yeah, been there done that, got the bill from the marriage counselor to prove it. My husband started the cyber stuff while I was pregnant with our first child, he thought he fell in love with this girl and I was furious. Being a scorned female, I refused to let it go and ended up having my own on line love affair that carried over into real life. Not my brightest moment but rage does strange things to your mind. After he found out, he ended it with his girlfriend and all of a sudden wanted to give our marriage another shot. Guess he didn't know what he had til he thought someone else might want it. Anyway, that was 3 years ago and we actually are happier now than we were then. Married 11 years.
2007-07-13 14:28:33 · answer #2 · answered by Brandy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tired said:
Yes I have, I enjoyed it after the initial shyness/ overcoming taboo thing. It also led to a friendship that I would not give up for anything. I know, all kinds of people will think I am a cyber ****..or cheater...whatever. But we no longer "cyber", we just have a friendship in which we talk about our families and let each other vent. It has actually helped me have a place of my own.
I honestly didnt like the "cyber" chat. But I am happy that it led me to where I am. I have a new friend, and NO I have no intentions of it going anywhere further
Friendship my ***! you have a relationship is what you have.you are here acting as if what you were doing is fine.Your a cheater and nothing less.
2007-07-13 15:04:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes I have, I enjoyed it after the initial shyness/ overcoming taboo thing. It also led to a friendship that I would not give up for anything. I know, all kinds of people will think I am a cyber slut..or cheater...whatever. But we no longer "cyber", we just have a friendship in which we talk about our families and let each other vent. It has actually helped me have a place of my own.
I honestly didnt like the "cyber" chat. But I am happy that it led me to where I am. I have a new friend, and NO I have no intentions of it going anywhere further.
2007-07-13 14:27:17 · answer #4 · answered by Bite me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had used porn in the past with the ex wife to get her warmed up as she was a cold fish in the sex dept, and it was once a wk IF I asked for it.
Only once did it take the form of an actual talk with another person online..a guy that listened to her as I did her on the desk and she turned up the "volume" I think for show but was good for me.
I saved all my other cyber for when she wasn't around so I could grunt and spew with abandon!
2007-07-13 14:28:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married for 10 years and my husband and I have been together 15 years total. I would never cyber on my husband and if he ever cybered on me then I would consider that cheating. There are other ways to bring romance back into a marriage and cybering is not one of them. Please don't go down that road. It may cost you your family and your marriage. Not to mention your dignity and respect with those that know you.
2007-07-13 14:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Tania H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I cybered , married for 13 years.......
Divorced now , pay child support for my 4 kids , half my income...and what do I have to show for it .... Well I got to spend time lieing to some chick who was lieing to me on the internet. Wow it was really worth it. Internet chat is the devils highway running right thru the middle of todays marriages.
I suppose if you and your spouse were into it together for laughs or something , but its not made to be a solo flight for the married.
2007-07-13 14:29:46 · answer #7 · answered by EGOman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have. Did so some time ago. Know what? It was a lot of work. Chrsit...I could have written the great American novel with all that energy spent at that.
Not to mention cybering or phone sex is like kissing a woman through a pane of glass. Unemotional and pointless.
2007-07-13 14:27:34 · answer #8 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband has been in Iraq for the past 6 1/2 months, so yes we have. But after a couple times, we realized it just sucks doing it knowing we can't actually have each other for a very long time, so we've stopped.
2007-07-13 14:55:18 · answer #9 · answered by ME 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have not, will not, God helping me.
It's just too hard to maintain emotional intimacy if my mind and fantasies are elsewhere. I want my relationship at home to be strong and untroubled by mental philandering. It's not that I haven't been tempted, but I don't see the benefit of giving in to it, except for purely selfish reasons. Heard of too many people who got into hot water this way.
Faithfulness starts in the mind and I wouldn't trust myself to go on too many mental "vacations" with someone else.
2007-07-13 14:34:56 · answer #10 · answered by waldguy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, I couldn't take it seriously, for one thing I must be absolutely certain the person on the other side is actually a chick of the correct age.
With my luck, my internet dream girl would be a fat 50 year old bald guy in Idaho or something.
2007-07-13 14:31:39 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋