Someone has to pay the hospital and doctors for mother and child. I don't see any individual philanthropists offering to donate money for hospital, doctor, food, housing, etc. for an unwed mom and her infant child.
BY THE WAY: My children are grown--and NONE are pregnant--this regards someone else who is not getting help from anyone.
2007-07-13 07:00:13 · 14 answers · asked by Holiday Magic 7 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
Something just occured to me: Maybe if the dads of the young unwed moms of today had 'done the right thing', their daughters would either not be pregnant, or there would be a 'shotgun wedding', and the new daddy forced to support his wife & child. huh?
2007-07-13 07:23:30 · update #1
A bond must be formed between baby and mom--and an infant should not ever have to stay with strangers while a mom works.
2007-07-13 07:25:12 · update #2
I hate to be this way... but the way i see it is that if illegal immigrants can get benefits in our country... why cant its citizens without being critized? If someone needs help... reach out, and ask for help. If you dont, your only hurting the child. Everyone needs a hand sometime... There is no shame in asking for help. That is why we have WIC, Welfare, and Medicaid. Just dont depend on it... use it and help yourself suceed for you and your child.
Pay it Foward!
2007-07-13 07:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Rachel 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Well, who should help these unwed mothers? How about themselves!? Finish high school, night classes, a job. But here i am, I'm an "Unwed" mother. I have to pay my own medical bills... i pay my living expenses, and i work full time... and pay daycare for an infant! Unwed mothers are looked down on. And i see why! I get criticized when I'm in public of having a baby, and im 24 years old!! I have people make comments all the time, that there isn't a ring on my finger. Luckily i dont have a dead beat "baby daddy" He lives with me.
That's why there is something called child support. And if they dont pay, they can get arrested for non payment...
Welfare is there for those who really need it..that are trying to make a good life for themselves... not the people that have 6 kids just to get on it.
2007-07-13 15:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by ツ Connors Mommy ツ 6 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Wow...people are harsh.
He who has never sinned, cast the first stone.
When people make bad choices...someone else is ALWAYS effected, maybe in a big way, maybe in a small way...but that effect ripples into someone else's reality.
Think of it this way...how many taxpayers dollars go into the child support programs? How much taxpayer dollars go into paying court fees, law enforcement to hunt these men down? To pay people to file all the paperwork,issue warrants...and so and so fourth?
The problem is most people are too selfish...including myself, to remember that we live in a balance, so that whatever we do ultimately effects someone or something else.
I am all for welfare, and think it is genuinely a good program. The problem is that so many people take advantage of it, that's what makes people angry. It should only be used as a stepping stone, it's a method to help people get on their feet, not to take care of them or their responsibilities for the rest of their lives...because let's face it, who the hell wants to work 2 or 3 jobs to support their families? The program is designed to help single parents get an education that will hopefully put them into a career field. Having a good career field allows the parent to not have to worry about money, and enables her to focus on parenting in a more positive healthy enviroment, while establishing/ setting a good role model for her children ( our future), because a good job equals, better living conditions, education..the children grow up in a nicer neighborhood...etc. See how this works people?
If it actually worked...this would be beneficial for the economy. I do know a few people that actually use it for what it's for, but unfortunately more people take advantage of the program...and in this way, nothing comes back to the community/ economy.
2007-07-13 16:48:45 · answer #3 · answered by darknangelic77 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My church and family helped me...even my in-laws. I wasn't an unwed mom (therefore didn't qualify for help, not even WIC) my husband was around blowing paychecks. He finally deserted us. We still don't get gov't help but as I said the church we are faithful members of helps and so does family. They rarely pay any of our bills, mostly just makes sure we have groceries and a working car. I have always worked to support us!
2007-07-14 00:00:02 · answer #4 · answered by mamma-mia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this is what i think about welfare:
it's a good thing. bash it all you want, but some people just need help. and it's not just women-men can be on welfare too, as well as married couples.
that said:
i think that it's irresponsible when a woman or man has tons of kids, doesn't work and gets on welfare. at least try. use a condomn. get a part-time job.
but they're are lots of people on welfare that work really hard, pay their taxes and just need some help. honestly, if they're working they are paying taxes so they are paying for that help to a certain extent. have we become so insenstive that we can't help a person in need? and what about the children? is it their fault that mommy or daddy can't make ends meet? no.
my biggest gripe about this subject is that people who contest welfare, usually contest abortion too. they just aren't very practical. people should get off their high-horse and realize that the world isn't perfect. i just hope that every person who bitches about welfare never finds themself in a sticky situation.
2007-07-13 14:08:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Yes, we need a welfare system. But, we also should have a court system willing to enforce laws about child support and the staff to enforce it. Mothers should not have to pay lawyers $500 or more a pop everytime a check is late.
2007-07-13 14:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by greydoc6 7 · 5⤊ 1⤋
my mother raised 4 kids by herself. she didnt get any help from child support, the dead beat father, or any family even. she always worked 2 full time jobs. if my mom can work 2 jobs and raise 4 kids, put 2 through college, why does a single mother with an infant need help? i think they should get rid of welfare, and other programs like that. i cant get paid if i dont want to work, why should some people? im sick of my taxes goin to some crackhead who thinks they deserve free money!
2007-07-13 14:13:30 · answer #7 · answered by kwinder00 4 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i'm a 20 year old single mom with an 8 month old and i would never want to use welfare i think its degrading i worked until i was 9 months pregnant to get maternity leave i get no help from her father and its tough at times but we get by i didn't plan on getting pregnant i was on birth control at the time but i knew i could make it work it wasn't easy but its possible
2007-07-13 14:27:29 · answer #8 · answered by monicayvonne1211 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
you people are so judgemental!! what about women who ARE married and with someone and then the man decides to up and leave her? she is supposed to feel bad for that? and you can yell child support all you want but the system is old and flawed and half the time they never even find them.
idk. there should be something but im not sure what. it would help if corporate america for starters would offer childcare for their employees! it would cut down on sick leave and tardiness and turn over. moms are wonderful workers if they have SUPPORT.
2007-07-13 14:07:58 · answer #9 · answered by princessfionafantasy 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
get a "private security contractor" to "reason" with the deadbeat about the money. he'll pay. take out a life insurance program on him beofrehand however.
2007-07-13 14:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋